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@alex26 Who said your daughter doesn't have a real dad? She does have a real dad. He's not dead. He's not completely out of the picture. He's there. When she says something that isn't true, you correct her. You say "you do have a real dad". You tell her "families come in all shapes and sizes...

@srur I don't know why you're even considering it. She can move if she wants and you can't stop her from moving, but if she does move, she can't take your child with her. Even if she's the custodial parent. The courts generally won't allow it unless she can show it's in the best interest of the...

@liaamsmithh95 And so what are you suggesting this mother do? She came here for advice and support, how are you giving her advice and support here?

@liaamsmithh95 There's no suggestion that these kids are exposed to violence, drug use, abandonment, incarceration of parents, death of a parent, or even neglect. They have a manipulative parent who is making things hell for the other parent, and are attempting to alienate against the other...

@slvceli You don't need to protect your kids from this. Psychologists say that as long as kids have one stable, loving and secure home, they turn out ok. You are that home to your kids. They will turn out ok. Will they have some issues that may need to be sorted out in therapy when they are...

@omslaw Tough situation, especially given her age. If she was a little older, I would be telling her that whether she does the practice or not is between her mom and her. But she's probably too young for that, it's probably something that you and her mother need to discuss and agree on. Could...

@billquinn I mean, both parents can still deal with anything from the kids lives, they just need to communicate with the other parent. This may involve letting the other parent know the contact details of the person running an extracurricular, or sending details of how things work, etc. There's...

@billquinn Why do you want to be involved with all activities? I've been coparenting for 4 years now, and honestly, things go much smoother if both parents aren't involved in all aspects of everything, if there's some things they do with one parent, and some things they do with the other...

@megbot Therapy. Physical activity. Literally those two things.

@mekhappes 3pm seems reasonable. At the same time, does it matter? If the other parent disagrees, and wants to pick up earlier/later, is that worth having conflict over? It'll just be a few hours either way.

@avimay How far away is the bus stop? If it's within sight of the house, no problems.

@vescd You're a capable father. You don't need randoms on the internet to tell you whether your decisions for your children are right or not. If your girlfriend can't respect your judgement with respect to your own children, then that's something I would be concerned about.

@audranne If the therapist is any good, they will see straight through any attempts to manipulate them.

@audranne The line can be very hard to find, but there are some guiding principles: Never lie to your kids. That's doesn't mean you have to answer every question or give them every detail, but don't tell them something that is false. Don't speculate. If you don't know why your ex is doing...

@joan316 So, you have her so that he can work, but he won't have her so you can work? Have you pointed out the double standards in that?

@joan316 Yes it's ridiculous, no you're not being unreasonable, but you're not likely going to be able to change him, so let's look at solutions. How have you worked out child support? Does your jurisdiction have a standard calculator, or have you just come to an arrangement privately? If...

@jambor The text is respectful. It seems to me that you are projecting the hurt you feel by the situation into the text. Unless you're suggesting the reason he got married, and the reason he's having a child, is all just to spite you, there's nothing spiteful in what he's written.

@cturtle That's not a given. He's in a conflicting position - he loves and trusts his wife. But she's done something that is inconsistent with his trust. What does he do then? A reasonable person doesn't jump straight to a position of anger and conflict with someone they love just because...

@msmia Let it be a bigger issue. As you said, damned if you do, damned if you don't. So, if you're going to be damned either way, do what works best for you.

@cturtle From everything you've described, it sounds like reporting it is not necessary, so I think you're doing the right thing. More generally though, it's possible you could benefit from talking through with a therapist. I used to not say/do things because I was scared of being called the...