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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @tehathyest I dont know why reddit is the best place to go when you are insecure, but it is, haha. Thank you so much.
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @tristatervrepair I really appreciate your response and perspective, im sorry that it happened to you. A lot of what you mentioned is what I've been scared of, and some of it I haven't even considered until now. This decision for us is still undecided, but I truly appreciate your input.
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @greaternda It's so hard to decide! I think everyone helped me be confident age gaps won't matter, im still nervous about starting over, lol. I think it's worth it, but it's definitely scary!
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @blessed2dfullest Thank you! Im so glad you decided to have more, I imagine your older 2 are thankful, too. And now your younger 2 have each other, lol. Also, I dont think you're an old mom at all! I've seen people here having their first baby at 45.
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @houstonpatty Thank you! I love this especially because you have siblings from previous marriages and still feel the same way. I hope my kids always feel that way!
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @kimber81 I love this! Thank you. I hope you find your forever and get to have another child, or 2! Lol
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @allenkrookham I'm so glad it worked out that way! That's the same age gaps that we have, plus one more. I have seen a few people say their siblings acted like parents, too. I bet it's hard not to with such a big age difference, but definitely something to be aware of
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @james24 Aww congratulations on your new baby! Sounds like they were meant to be here. This makes me feel better, thank you! Im a bit scared of newborn stage lol last time it went by really fast
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @katrina2017 Glad im not alone lol! May I ask why you decided to try again? And congratulations! I hope you get 2-4 more!
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @elizevh Thank you, im sorry you had to figure stuff out alone. Thats a big fear of mine. I'm only 32, but the age gaps will still be similar if it happens. I will try my best to not ever exclude any of my older kids. At 32, I still need my mom!
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @xxtrollbasherxx I absolutely love this! As others have mentioned, it's a lot more challenging to start over when you're older. Did you and your spouse find it manageable? Im sure its more exhausting lol but over all has it been okay? Do you feel like youre missing out on dates or travel or...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @baelog Thank you! Is your son close to your brother? I agree that sometimes life makes us wait! Sometimes I wish I had tried a couple of years ago, but I really wasn't ready until the last year. I am sad that waiting so long means my dad won't be here to meet my baby if we have one. He was the...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @datomiv It sounds like great dynamics between everyone. I hope that my youngest will be similar, at least as an adult. She isn't as close as the older 2, which I think is why she's always asked for a sibling. Im sure she'll be mad about it as a teenager, lol. It's great that your oldest can...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @entwinedspoon Are they friends? Or do you think they will be as adults lol
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @adamlost I can see older siblings being more strict than parents for sure lol. Glad you are getting closer with time though, and even raising your kids together. Im so sorry about your dad. I lost my dad 3 months ago to cancer, and having my sister through that loss with my mom has really...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @youngmc Wow that is complicated and at the same time, seems so normal the way you handle it! Im so sorry about your mc, and struggles getting pregnant. Its so common it seems these days. I dont blame you at all for not being ready to adopt, and there's still a big possibility you will get...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @danzou Im glad it worked out for your children! Im so sorry it didnt workout with your siblings. I guess you truly never know, some people have said they cant stand their close age sibling too
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @kellypham Wow, I am so sorry! I recently lost my father, and I can't imagine losing my sister at the same time because I didn't mean enough to her. Your siblings will regret that one day. You deserve the best in life, and im sure you are an incredible parent after what you went through!
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @confused_mom That breaks my heart, I am so sorry! You didnt deserve that. This is something I want to be aware of, and I hope my kids dont feel this way. Sometimes they bottle things in even when we try our hardest to help/understand.
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @billy3140 Thank you! Im sorry that it worked out that way. That's something that weighs heavy on my mind when im worried. I hope that when she's around 30 and maybe more grown up, you will all form a closer bond. My oldest kids definitely had it harder than even my 9 year old, partially from us...
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