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@justme12345678910 Hi slippery squirrel! Thank you so much for sharing what you are working on. We definitely see the effects of social media on mental health over here, and it’s not pretty or sustainable for anyone! I shared some of the things you worked on with him this evening and he said he...

@rbnum1fan Ah, you also have a contract! I love this idea. I tried when I got him a phone but didn’t set the limit firmly enough. He definitely spends all of his time on screen, from the moment he wakes up until sleeping, so I’ve been trying to motivate him to do other activities on the...

@justme12345678910 Yes! May I ask what sort of consequences you decided upon?

@michaelo Thank you! I have this book- I think I lent it out. You’re right that I am acting as his frontal lobe right now, and I also have adhd so that’s pretty exhausting for me. I’d like him to regulate, but I’m scared to release control and then go through times of extreme disregulation due...

@glennheath Teen parent here- now in my 30’s- she’s right! Keeping that line of communication open is what’s most important

@elina99 Encopresis and enuresis are cross listed as a physical condition and are also in the DSM-5. But, what they don’t do is identify the source, they bandaid it. For years I just thought it was trauma related but recently I’ve been wondering about Ehlers danlos syndrome. If you look up the...

@elina99 Oh, I know. The medical profession is quite lax at handling this. They don’t have many solutions for enuresis or encopresis. I may delete my comment just to protect him but I think i asked here because I feel at a loss with the lack of support from our providers. I didn’t share that...

@elina99 Hi there. I think there are some nuggets of wisdom in your post. I would benefit from loosening in some places, but still tightening up in others. I agree there are days where he feels he wouldn’t want to come back. Most of the time, we have a pretty solid relationship. Control is...

@halceko19 I asked him to stop, ignored it, ignored the router situation. Once he was gone, I turned the lights off and went to sleep. I felt thankful he didn’t escalate again.

@halceko19 I was a teen parent still in the throes of anger towards my own mom when I had him, so this is definitely real and he wasn’t taught he respect. His dad was abusive and I had to leave, so his 0-3 experience was definitely riddled with stress and poor role and distress tolerance...

@chadm Yes, it’s slow going. Sometimes I need to talk to other parents in addition to our therapist, it’s helpful even to hear that this is beyond what is normal. Validating. Thank you. 💙

@zoecc Oh, thank you. You are 1000% right. About the firmness, about standing up for what is important to build productive and mindful children, about how this will affect him in the real world. Thanks for seeing me.

@bear78 Thank you. Yes, it’s just me. He definitely lacks a male role model. The school model is not ideal but we are very lucky they will send him there- our district is extremely under resourced and I fought long and hard for this- so thankful I never have to fight with him to go to school...

My teen (17m) doesn’t like limits. Tonight, his limit for internet usage kicked in. He told me I had to change it or he would make my life miserable. I told him once he had finished his chores (namely walking our dog) and homework I would be willing to reconsider. He proceeded to flick the...