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@wolframn If you teach him what they are in a matter of fact way, the interest goes away.

@sarah6722 Honestly, the potential for overheating in the car worries me way more than someone taking my kid. That's why my parents would crack a window and they would leave me 😆

@evilbeans I agree with you overall on most points but I don't think it's scarier these days. Overall crime is down and the threat of nuclear war is no higher than it was before. Infant mortality improved. It's just that we're more aware and therefore judged more.

@healingrainbow Oh man, a puppy AND a newborn?? Yikes. 😛 I hope he knows that a sibling will not be his age nor much fun for awhile. Good luck either way, this decision is really on you. It sounds like you're ambivalent. I'm not sure who the primary caregiver is but that's also an important factor.

@healingrainbow Does your current partner care much one way or the other? I mean, I don't have a second partner so I'm not sure how it feels to be in your shoes but if you're exhausted as it is, make sure you both REALLY want this. Also, since your son is older now, how does he feel about having...

@om4e We do matching PJs on Christmas Eve, host a friendsgiving as well as a Thanksgiving with just my in-laws at our house (started before kids but we're no longer in an apartment so they stopped bringing the turkey cooked!), and christmas cookie making. Halloween is BIG where we are so we...

@nathandavis There's also r/parentsofmultiples with plenty in your situation!

@snpdoll11 I love our wagon! Small coolers, stuffed friends, and sometimes actual human friends join our son in it! We got the Radio Flyer one where one side comes down so he will sit in it while we eat out, space permitting.

@cehughes I think everyone just has a different tolerance, OP should consider how they deal with stress/chaos in the long term. For women there's also research that 2 is more stressful than 1 and happiness doesn't increase. The stress is like an upside down U curve that peaks at 3. But plenty of...

@momof452 I added an edit based on what you wrote elsewhere. What age is preschool in your area? This fall? If no, is there any way you can get him involved in other social activities before then in the summer when the vaccine is better distributed? That sounds like the real issue here, not the...

@momof452 When will he go to daycare? Having an extra baby that will not be much fun for over a year from now isn't going to do much about the social aspect. Your son will be preschool age by the time that kicks in. Even then, it will teach him a mentoring or controlling role, not a peer role...

@roseen That and easy babies don't always stay easy once there is competition for attention. My brother-in-law started trying to attack his baby sister after he realized it was a permanent thing. Prior to this he was great. We have a 16 month old right now and I bought him a doll. He liked a...

@katharina800 It depends on the personality of the first. My friend (quite regretfully as an adult) bullied his little sister with a 7y gap. It was easy to do and his parents didn't interject or notice. Men aren't meant to take an active role in his home country and his parents were immigrants...

@missaqua You realize that it's not that you're not giving your child a sibling, it's that you're not making your son compete for your time and love. You're a better mom to one (based on these comments, not that I know you) and your son deserves you at your best. As an only child myself it's a...

@katrina2017 Thank you for sharing. I'd be very disappointed too and it's a big reason I'm on the fence. I'm an only and my husband has good sibling relationships. They're not similar in personality and his siblings poked fun at him a bit but they weren't competitive. I'd like to think it's...

@pencile Unless you have the most amazing kids who will sacrifice more than their peers, it's unlikely that two kids would do much to help you when you're old compared to one. My two siblings-in-law will not be helping with my MIL/ FIL. They're both building lives elsewhere, having their own...

@katrina2017 Was your husband okay with his sister? Neutrality isn't necessarily a lose, even if not as good as friendship.