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[historyismypassion]

So my husband and I had a visit with my family in law yesterday (outside, masked), and there were just some things that really made me feel like either I wasn’t doing a good job or I didn’t know my babe best. But I’ve decided “f**k that! I know my kid best. Yes sometimes it takes 30-60 mins to get her down for a nap... that doesn’t mean that I’m doing a bad job, it just means that that’s how long it took that time!”

So if anyone makes you feel like you’re doing a bad job or you don’t know your kid best 1) I’m sorry they made you feel that way 2) f**k them, they can take their opinion and shove it and 3) you’re doing a fantastic job! Keep being the best momma/daddy for your kid! ❤

 

[ashbash400]

@historyismypassion My MIL said about my 2 month old son that we made a “lap dog” because he likes to be held and snuggled. Fuck that of course he likes to be snuggled he’s a BABY and the fact that he wants ME to snuggle him warms my heart. So yes fuck everyone else’s judgements and implications of how you should raise your child.

 

[metalgreymon]

@ashbash400 At 2 months old?! Wtf

Like this tiny creature was living INSIDE your body only 8 weeks ago and now suddenly they need to fend for themselves?

I don’t understand the mentality at all.

 

[seeker4561]

@metalgreymon I will never be over for as long as I live the time someone told me I was babying my daughter. I don’t remember exactly when this happened but it was before Christmas last year so she would have been at MOST two months old.

Fucking DUH I’m babying her, she’s a baby??!

 

[amberr]

@seeker4561 Doesn’t babying mean...treating like a baby? I’m so confused about why this would bother someone.

 

[seeker4561]

@amberr Right? I mean, more understandable if she was like, twelve. But she wasn’t even twelve weeks! It wasn’t a person whose opinion I hold in high regard so I mostly just laughed.

 

[lightningspeed]

@seeker4561 Honestly, I had this at FOUR DAYS. “You’re going to spoil him keep holding him like that”. Why oh why do people think this way??

 

[joillian]

@lightningspeed My mother-in-law did this to me at 6 days pp, literally yelled at me for holding my own child, with that same nonsense about spoiling him. He’s nearly 6 months now and thinking about it still pisses me off. I can’t fathom the coldness of it either.

 

[bf2008]

@seeker4561 Oh my god. I sometimes joke about this with family "Sorry we had to cut your visit short. He can be a real baby sometimes " But then we both laugh because yes, he's an actual baby!!

 

[ashbash400]

@metalgreymon Exactly! It’s insane! He’s too small to lift his head for more than a minute and he cant see for shit, how is he supposed to understand why he’s alone or not being held??

 

[bf2008]

@metalgreymon Now I'm giggling at the idea of handing my 6 month old a hatchet and a tarp and sending him into the forest

 

[metalgreymon]

@bf2008 Or a briefcase

Time to earn your keep! Have a good day at work! I packed you some milk and raisins.

 

[godseeker62]

@metalgreymon Aaahahahahaaa!! Oh that’s just such a hilarious image. Thanks for the giggles.

 

[historyismypassion]

@ashbash400 Yup! My girl is slowly practicing her independence and not wanting to be snuggled so much (now almost 4 months old) and my brother in law said “I don’t think she’s practicing independence”... I was just like “do you spend every day with her? No? Then stfu!”

Everybody is always going to have something to say, do what you’re doing, because you’re doing great! ❤

 

[janie1242]

@ashbash400 My MIL told me to let my son cry it out when he was a week old. I personally don’t believe in CIO anyway but that was just ridiculous for her to tell me that.

 

[ashbash400]

@janie1242 Omfg literally a WEEK old?! What the hell is wrong with some people.

 

[minako5]

@janie1242 My own parents STILL accuse me of "ruining"/"spoiling" my little brother by picking him up when he cried as a baby, and "that's why he's such a problem child now that he's older"
Oh, and I was barely 8 yrs old when he was born.

 

[lorelainoah]

@janie1242 I don’t believe in CIO either and yes omg that’s way way too young to even think about letting a tiny baby cry. They need so much of our love and attention, and I never could understand people who say anything to the contrary.

 

[mamawg]

@janie1242 My grandmother too. She called to see how we were doing, the baby started crying, and she was like “you don’t have to go to her every time she cries. Just let her cry it out.” And I was like, thanks but no, she must need something, oh look, a full diaper. I made a point of telling her that babies cry for a damn reason.

 

[mariedavis]

@ashbash400 my grandmother in law came to meet my son for the first time and she sees he’s sleeping on my chest and she starts freaking out about how much i’ll regret letting him do that. he was 3 days old. i’ll never understand people who think it’s wrong to show your child love and affection.