First time dad to be. Wife is 32 wks pregnant and we're thrilled and excited and couldn't want this more.
I always assumed we would do daycare. Since COVID occurred my wife insisted she wouldn't be OK with daycare and we'd need to find a nanny at least until pre-k. We thought maybe we can limit the days we need care somehow.
Amazingly I was able to get a schedule adjustment approved to compress my schedule and be home Fridays. It is truly amazing because I know that others have been denied this sort of flexibility in recent past.
My wife has no such flexibility afforded to her,though she does have the option to work 4 days if one of those days is a weekend day (currently she's M-F.
She always says she wishes she had part time options and if she could leave her job she would etc etc. I personally I am grateful to get 1 day a week approved but I don't share that sentiment.
My wife makes ~$100k+bonuses+stock, I make ~$94K+Top Tier Benefits+Pension. Both of us have been fortunate and have been promoted relatively quickly and the outlook on that upward movement is good for both of us.
Now we're 2 months out. We call a nanny agency today to get the ball rolling on this and upon finding out it will cost us $6,000 just to use the agency services to hire a nanny, and that it will on average cost us ~$40k a year for a nanny she's questioning everything.
Repeating that if she had part time options she would do it in a heartbeat and she wishes we could afford for her to just stop working for a year and if she could she would etc. Still daycare is not an option for her. No mention of working 4 days by working 1 weekend day.
Then she says, can you drop down to part time? Now I was FLOORED that my 4 day work week was approved. My position is a full time position not to mention I just took on a ton of new responsibilities and expect to be promoted again soon. Also I know for a fact others have been flat denied schedule flexibility in the same position..which is classified as full-time with no flex options.
I told her that my position is full time and I don't think that's an option to just do that. I also don't want to just sacrefice my career for 2 years.
She tells me I just won't do it because of my pride.
WTF?
I always assumed we would do daycare. Since COVID occurred my wife insisted she wouldn't be OK with daycare and we'd need to find a nanny at least until pre-k. We thought maybe we can limit the days we need care somehow.
Amazingly I was able to get a schedule adjustment approved to compress my schedule and be home Fridays. It is truly amazing because I know that others have been denied this sort of flexibility in recent past.
My wife has no such flexibility afforded to her,though she does have the option to work 4 days if one of those days is a weekend day (currently she's M-F.
She always says she wishes she had part time options and if she could leave her job she would etc etc. I personally I am grateful to get 1 day a week approved but I don't share that sentiment.
My wife makes ~$100k+bonuses+stock, I make ~$94K+Top Tier Benefits+Pension. Both of us have been fortunate and have been promoted relatively quickly and the outlook on that upward movement is good for both of us.
Now we're 2 months out. We call a nanny agency today to get the ball rolling on this and upon finding out it will cost us $6,000 just to use the agency services to hire a nanny, and that it will on average cost us ~$40k a year for a nanny she's questioning everything.
Repeating that if she had part time options she would do it in a heartbeat and she wishes we could afford for her to just stop working for a year and if she could she would etc. Still daycare is not an option for her. No mention of working 4 days by working 1 weekend day.
Then she says, can you drop down to part time? Now I was FLOORED that my 4 day work week was approved. My position is a full time position not to mention I just took on a ton of new responsibilities and expect to be promoted again soon. Also I know for a fact others have been flat denied schedule flexibility in the same position..which is classified as full-time with no flex options.
I told her that my position is full time and I don't think that's an option to just do that. I also don't want to just sacrefice my career for 2 years.
She tells me I just won't do it because of my pride.
WTF?