timothythe2nd
New member
Hey everyone - could really use some unbiased advice here.
I have B/G twins, age 3.5yrs. They’ve been at the same chain daycare since they were 4mos old. My girl twin is a social butterfly, adaptable, well-liked, seems to have always thrived there. My boy twin started biting around 18mos (likely due to a speech delay addressed through our county’s infants and toddlers program) and persisted for a while. They even wrote up a formal plan for him, presumably to prepare to kick him out. He got bumped up into the pre-K class with 4+5yr olds last year and did SO much better. With the new school year, those kids moved on to regular school and they moved him back down into the 4yr old class with his sister. He’s been kicked out twice for biting since.
I definitely think part of it has to do with the transition - new teachers, classmates, environment. (Although having been there for his whole life, he knows pretty much every room and teacher thus far!) He did a lot better the second week. Then today he relapses and has an awful day, I assume due to transitioning back after a busy and fun long weekend.
We’re starting up with a local therapy group to evaluate for OT plan; I think daycare is getting pressure from parents about our kid biting. Which of course I can’t blame them, but it also makes me so sad. He doesn’t bite at home, or his sister in school. He is super intelligent, observant and independent and I do wonder if he gets bored. Maybe the big kid stuff was more interesting?
To make a long story short, I’m looking at other schools for them because I feel like it’s got to just be a matter of time until they release him. I worry that he’ll act up somewhere else too and they won’t be as gracious with us as the existing school we have such a long relationship with. But I want what’s best for him.
Thoughts/advice welcome.
I have B/G twins, age 3.5yrs. They’ve been at the same chain daycare since they were 4mos old. My girl twin is a social butterfly, adaptable, well-liked, seems to have always thrived there. My boy twin started biting around 18mos (likely due to a speech delay addressed through our county’s infants and toddlers program) and persisted for a while. They even wrote up a formal plan for him, presumably to prepare to kick him out. He got bumped up into the pre-K class with 4+5yr olds last year and did SO much better. With the new school year, those kids moved on to regular school and they moved him back down into the 4yr old class with his sister. He’s been kicked out twice for biting since.
I definitely think part of it has to do with the transition - new teachers, classmates, environment. (Although having been there for his whole life, he knows pretty much every room and teacher thus far!) He did a lot better the second week. Then today he relapses and has an awful day, I assume due to transitioning back after a busy and fun long weekend.
We’re starting up with a local therapy group to evaluate for OT plan; I think daycare is getting pressure from parents about our kid biting. Which of course I can’t blame them, but it also makes me so sad. He doesn’t bite at home, or his sister in school. He is super intelligent, observant and independent and I do wonder if he gets bored. Maybe the big kid stuff was more interesting?
To make a long story short, I’m looking at other schools for them because I feel like it’s got to just be a matter of time until they release him. I worry that he’ll act up somewhere else too and they won’t be as gracious with us as the existing school we have such a long relationship with. But I want what’s best for him.
Thoughts/advice welcome.
