Should I introduce to him formally to my kids or wait for the relationship to firm up better and then break the news?

[muziklade]

I 35 F a widow recently got intimate with my BIL(bereaved sisters husband), when I was on vacation in India. With holidays over I am back to my base country. I am still confused on what had transpired between us during those days and not quite sure what is in his mind and what will his further actions be.

You could get a better understanding after reading my earlier posts on the matter

https://www.reddit.com/r/askwomenadvice/comments/c8c3d0/me_35f_datingmarrying_my_brotherinlaw35m_would_it

https://www.reddit.com/r/SingleParents/comments/cpvzhf/did_i_err_or_was_it_ok

His work gets him to my country once or twice a month and i am sure he might be looking for more interactions between us. Would it be advisable for me to introduce to him formally to my kids or wait for the relationship to firm up better and then break the news?

 

[rbcooprs01]

@muziklade There’s no harm in waiting. On the other hand, not waiting could end up hurting them. Better safe than sorry, especially since this is a complicated situation and you’re not even sure what’s what between you.