eliakhoury
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I believe that u shouldn't take away affection or comfort when a child is having a temper tantrum.
He believes it's best to ignore the child when they cry out.
This troubles me.
He says he has helped raise a bunch of his family members and 'knows for a fact' this works.
I only have this one child yet it feels wrong to ignore him when he just needs comfort, so I don't and my partner takes this as me undermining him.
He can also be mean to him (our 1 year old son) because he wants to toughen him up. As in telling him to shut the f up when he cries, telling him to 'get off me' when he wants to be held sometimes or if he is holding our son and our son starts crying he'll say the same thing 'get off me man'.
He tells me that I am going to raise 'a lil bitch' and I get so mad when he says this and it always turns into an argument because I don't believe that to be true. Our son is strong willed (I believe) so he isn't the easiest baby but I don't care because he's my baby and I will learn him so I can be the best parent possible and give him all the tools and skills I am capable of so he grows up to be the man he is supposed to be.
He isn't always like this. He definitely shows our son affection I just wish he would handle the situation differently when our son isn't in a good mood. It's like he gets man when our son gets upset or botherd. I'm like 'hey we r the adults here, we have to keep it together when he's having his little meltdowns so he knows we there for him through the good AND the bad!
I'm not trying to paint a bad picture of my partner here I'm just trying to give examples. But he definitely has less patience than I do when it comes to our son and we clearly have different parenting styles.
How can I handle situations like this better? I am not trying to make my partner feel like his way doesn't count but I just strongly believe against it. I just want us both to be the best parents we can be, together, not separated.
He believes it's best to ignore the child when they cry out.
This troubles me.
He says he has helped raise a bunch of his family members and 'knows for a fact' this works.
I only have this one child yet it feels wrong to ignore him when he just needs comfort, so I don't and my partner takes this as me undermining him.
He can also be mean to him (our 1 year old son) because he wants to toughen him up. As in telling him to shut the f up when he cries, telling him to 'get off me' when he wants to be held sometimes or if he is holding our son and our son starts crying he'll say the same thing 'get off me man'.
He tells me that I am going to raise 'a lil bitch' and I get so mad when he says this and it always turns into an argument because I don't believe that to be true. Our son is strong willed (I believe) so he isn't the easiest baby but I don't care because he's my baby and I will learn him so I can be the best parent possible and give him all the tools and skills I am capable of so he grows up to be the man he is supposed to be.
He isn't always like this. He definitely shows our son affection I just wish he would handle the situation differently when our son isn't in a good mood. It's like he gets man when our son gets upset or botherd. I'm like 'hey we r the adults here, we have to keep it together when he's having his little meltdowns so he knows we there for him through the good AND the bad!
I'm not trying to paint a bad picture of my partner here I'm just trying to give examples. But he definitely has less patience than I do when it comes to our son and we clearly have different parenting styles.
How can I handle situations like this better? I am not trying to make my partner feel like his way doesn't count but I just strongly believe against it. I just want us both to be the best parents we can be, together, not separated.