vent/rant - advice wanted/ambivalent

I've been trying to make mom friends for 4 years, thanks to Covid it made it next to impossible for the first few years. I'm horrible at small talk and making new friends because I'm always socially awkward. All the friends I do have I've made through work and unfortunately none of them have...

My 11 mo will be going to daycare tomorrow for the first time. We are immigrants, so no family support. But in-laws came to help + all kind of leaves we can use, we managed to keep her home till now. Now she knows who we are, prefers mommy over daddy, cries if we don't pick her up, is a picky...

My daughter turned 7 and has always been emotional. My husband, daughter and I have always talked about emotions and I feel like we have a good understanding/recognition of how we feel, sitting with the feelings or working through them as needed. I think we’re also pretty good at self...

So, I have a very hyper active 2.5 year old that is just lately burning out my husband and I. He is our one and only, and lately his behavior has further fueled our decision for OAD. He's like a loose cannon sometimes, and it takes every patient cell in my body to try to gentle parent ASAP...

I know ‘failure’ is a harsh word, but that’s how I feel. I had a horrible, horrible pregnancy that still seems like a fever-dream to me 3 yrs later. I usually name that as the main reason to be OAD, because a) most people respect that answer and stop pestering and b) it’s nicer to say out...

My son is 5.5 months old. He’s my absolute world and I’m so happy. But if you take a look at my post history, it was nothing like that a few months ago. My pregnancy was good until it wasn’t - induced for pre-e. Baby was skinny, small and needed respiratory assistance at birth, born completely...

My husband and I had never wanted kids. It was a big part of our relationship. 3 years of friendship where we piggy backed off each other on why we don't want kids. 3 years in our relationship telling people we won't be having any. Then 8 months before our wedding I was late. It was January of...

My son turns 2 months old this Friday and he has been STRUGGLING with day time naps for almost two weeks. He won’t go down for more than 45 minutes at a time (if that). He then is either up and alert or crying. We allow him some self-soothing (which he was getting really good at for a while) and...

I am a OAD mom. My daughter is 7 years now . Till she was 5 years , i never thought of a second child but then i started seeing all her frens getting siblings. We r a family of 3 and most ppl around us are a family of 4 or more. I was turning 40 when the thought of second baby came. I...

X post from r/beyondthebump I’m 34, and my husband (38) and I welcomed our son this past November. He is our pride and joy and we love him to pieces. Before we had him, we discussed being one and done, and were pretty sure that we would be. We left the door open a small crack for a second...

I am 90% OAD due to health complications* and I sometimes do wish for another child. One thing that I find oddly triggering is the thought of going on vacations with my one and only angel girl and my husband. and I KNOW that sounds super silly even as I type that. But, I love vacations, I...

Has anyone been successful with getting their tubes tied after the first child. I’m a 29 y/o F and I have my appointment with my OB next Thursday. I have been told no many times. I know for a fact in my heart I don’t want anymore children and my husband is on board. I guess I’m looking for tips...

Our daughter is 2.5 and we have a small dog who requires a lot of attention/work. My husband and I work full time but I work some hours in evenings to reduce childcare expenses- edit- to clarify, I work shifts 12-8 a few days a week so that we can only pay for childcare 12-4 those days (mental...

Anyone else constantly getting asked or judged about not having multiple? My daughter is only 13 months, but because my husband and I both have several siblings who have multiples, it’s like we’re supposed to do the same or we aren’t as good of a parent. I don’t know when that became the goal...

Ok, so my fellow OAD first of all I salute you! My husband and I are happy one and done parents to our 5 year old daughter. We are a mixture of by choice and I've had most of my cervix removed due to cervical cancer, which makes carrying to term risky and not fun. As I'm turning 38 I'm getting...

I’ve always been of the mindset that asking people/couples about having kids shouldn’t be anybody’s damn business but themselves. I hate it when people respond to me saying we’re OAD, with “oh you gotta give them a little friend to play with”, or something to that affect. I find it offensive...