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Hello I have a boss, call them P and a two co-workers, call them y and m. P, Y, and I have been there since opening, about 8 months ago. M started about 6 months ago. We work with adults that need assistance. M is the issue. She does and says inappropriate things. She was trying get a...

Hi everyone! I had my baby February 2023, and was due to return to work February 2024 but with the childcare crisis I had to extend my leave. I now have secured child care, and e-mailed my bosses May 9th stating I can officially return June 3rd and… crickets. I sent a follow up e-mail May 21st...

EDIT: below, I incorrectly cited the California minimum staffing ratio as 4:1 for infants (0 to 18 months). In fact, it is 3:1, the research-recommended ratio, as is correctly noted by a couple of commenters. 4:1 begins at 18 months until 36 months; 8:1 from 3 years to kindergarten. Hello all...

I have 3 months of maternity leave... which I know is a blessing, in this country. However, many refer to breastfeeding as a bit of a full time job, especially during the first 6 months of a baby's life, where they feed quite a bit and aren't yet eating any whole foods. I'll be working from...

Hello fellow madres, I currently have a desk job with a few work related travels here and there, but am mostly sedentary and work from home most of the time. Now, I might get a job offer that involves being sent to various locations anywhere from a month to several months (6-12 months), but...

Hello Working Moms! As a busy mid 30’s mom who works from home, my wardrobe is pretty casual. I get up, wash up, and don my “work clothes,” which is really just loungewear. Then for after school activities, I have my “going out clothes” which is usually a v neck tshirt and jeans or capris and...

Single Mom to 2 kids 6&3. I co-parent with my ex-husband. It’s my week, and 2 of my 6 y/o’s classmates had birthday parties back to back. It’s been a long afternoon, but we all survived and they had fun. I went out of my way to make an effort to talk to several Moms. Literally, they told me...

When my daughter was born I quit my tech job and stayed home for a year. I was making about 90k previously. My job was completely burning me out and I had a really toxic manager, I was miserable. When I decided to go back to work I was not feeling confident in my value having been out of a job...

What would you think of commuting to a new job that pays 40% more, but you have to come into the office 1.5 hrs away (3hr round trip) once a week? My kids are 2.5 and 9months, so in thick of “needing” me. It’s a great opportunity that I’m excited about but my husband thinks the commute is a...

I requested 3 weeks of summer vacay due to combo of real vacay and daycare closures. I counted and taking all fridays off july- mid sept was only like an extra 5 days so I asked if I could have them off (even if l unpaid) and my boss approved it. My hubby gets all fridays off in summer (...

This week I had something of an epiphany. We are in the thick of a very involved and critical project at work, with multiple workstreams and plenty of stress. I am a WFHM with middle-school-age kids. My realization is that the folks with kids on the project are all working crazy hours, turning...

I (33 y/o F) have an 8 month old in daycare and it’s not going well. Currently looking for a nanny, but given the cost I’ve started wondering if it makes sense to just step away from my career temporarily to be a stay at home mom. What’s tough is I spent a decade in school earning a PhD and am...

I’ve never known anyone to have 3 kids in daycare at a time so I want to hear if I’m crazy for considering it. One scenario has 3 kids in daycare for about 8-9 months. This amounts to almost all of my take home pay- I’d have about $300 left a month. I know some people say compare the cost...

It's time to get together and talk about something that affects all of us: the lack of paid family leave and sick days in the U.S. It's a stark contrast to the care we provide for even our fur babies. Did you know that in 26 states, regulations mandate puppies cannot be separated from their...

Venting more than anything. My husband and I have been married 6 years, and had 3 kids in 18 months (because twins…) It hasn’t been easy. Our marriage has basically been a rollercoaster of blessings (kids) and disappointments (everything else). I’m an attorney. We got married right after I...

Post Intent: Getting help figuring out a daily schedule that fits in EVERYTHING I have to do in a day. Context & What Needs to be accomplished in day: •27 yr old mom with severe ADHD •3 kids (8 months & 3 yr girls, 5 yr boy) •5 yr old school 8:00-3:30 •Kids bedtime at 7:00-8:00 •Demanding AF...

So I'm applying for a new position for the first time in 10 years! Technically it is for a company that I used to work for but also still sort of work for via a contract (but my W2 is through the employer I've been contracted out to). So any way, although I've been at the same place for 10 years...

I have an one year old daughter, E. She has been home with me since day 1. She's been extremely attached to me since day 1. E didn't really tolerate her dad (my DH) until around 7 months. I've BF her all along and still do. We cosleep, no one else in the bed but us. She contact naps. All of this...

Would you join a brand new Universal PreK being offered by your town (through YMCA)? We love our daycare, but the preK would be with kids from our school district and offer a chance for something new. The UPK is obviously free but before/after care is not. Just wondering what else you’d consider...

Hi everyone, I'm due with my first child in a month and I'm lucky to have en employer who provides 12 weeks of fully paid maternity leave. How should I manage California benefits in parallel to that? We are a small tight-knit company so I have the flexibility to choose as long as it's legal...