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@tfran Don’t forget lack of research. It takes a 5 min Google to fact check something and/or follow up with your doctor. If your doctor said something that doesn’t agree with what you read, ask another doctor.

@jsphalford11 Library books are free :)

@yamikani I’m not mad people didn’t read it, it’s up to them to decide how they want to approach their parenting learning. My only points have been: - I think the reason people may not provide more summaries is because they don’t have time to/are tired. - IF they chose not to provide a summary...

@yamikani That’s not it at all? Did you actually read the comment I replied to. The person I responded to was mad that their friend gave them a book and didn’t summarize the book for them. Just thank the friend and move on if you don’t wanna read it. Don’t simmer because they didn’t spend the...

@jsphalford11 I can’t say what works for you. All I’m saying is, we had it hard too, just like many others. We had a colicky baby who cried every night for hours on end for months. So, I knew we needed to do something and I was tired of googling all night long. Someone recommended Precious...

@jsphalford11 In this case I was the breastfeeding parent so I read the books while my husband did other things and I summarized them for him so we both could understand. I asked him to read specific sections that pertained to us so he could help make decisions. It was hard to fit in, but worth it.

@jsphalford11 I think a lot of people are in the same boat and just suffering too? Yes there’s a wide range of difficulty and ease in infants and some people have a harder or easier time than others. Personally it was sleep deprivation and frustration that drove me to read the whole book about...

@abcdeg But don’t you think that friend also had to read that book when they were sleep deprived? Why is it more important that you get sleep while they stay up and write up a summary for you? This is unbelievably entitled.

@jidavy I think ultimately it really depends on you and your partner and how you feel, as well as how your baby is doing. For us, of course the first month or two was really hard, but my husband using his time later on was much more useful to us than in the beginning, if we had to pick.

@jidavy What if you split the difference? Take PTO up front, then start your leave 2-3 weeks before your wife’s is over to spend more family time. Wife/mom here - we did your original plan - my husband took a few weeks up front and then took his leave after mine. A few points: There isn’t as...

@1peter318 It makes me sad people come here thinking like a C-section is a failed outcome. The goal is to have a healthy baby! Woohoo, goal achieved! The fact that we have medicine available to us to make this even more common is amazing! Without medical intervention it’s very possible that OP...

@marieb3 I think it’s fine to ask, but don’t be mad when parents respond telling you what helped them (they read a book).

@alysson Thank you, stranger ☺️ I was also surprised considering I was agreeing with the commend I replied to, which got upvoted. I think the hive mind takes over sometimes. I also agree with you that I haven’t really seen a lot of comments that are just listing a book and that’s it. Most...

@twicedivorcedman But the point is, the book IS help. That’s where the commenter got the useful info. And they found it helpful.

@abcdeg R/sleeptrain has a lot of great posts/resources that obviously you still need to read but are more digestible and shorter. WRT Precious Little Sleep, she recommends which chapters to skip to if you are super sleep deprived. And regarding the issue in general, I’ve found if you ask...

@abcdeg I mean personally I’m doing okay (don’t need a sleep consultant) because I read the book. And I’m not saying that to be rude, I’m serious. It was a great read and super helpful. I think when people recommend books they’re being genuine. I’m also not saying it’s bad to help if you can...

@nataliya Yes! I get OP’s annoyance but it also feels a little like cheating. Being mad you didn’t do your homework and the person who did won’t do it for you. I read Precious Little Sleep cover to cover backwards and forwards, rereading sections over and over, and eventually taking notes to...

@gc612 This is hilarious, I can’t tell if you’re saying this tongue in cheek or not, but either way I love it.

@molitor Does he fight all the naps? If he’s consistently not sleeping after, say, the 3pm feed, let him sit in a swing or on a play mat or some other thing where he’s safe and entertained. If he falls asleep, great, if not, that’s fine too. Can also try adding a walk in the stroller or car ride...