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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @mjohnsona2 I am so sorry to hear this..
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @jhatfield2 That does seem very strange, lol! Hopefully my girls give me a few years before they start having babies
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @jhatfield2 Wow thats a very similar age gap and situation as mine. Im happy to hear you love them all the same anyways! I was worried if my oldest girls start having kids thatd be closer in age to my youngest, theyd be bothered by that a lot. Its hard to ask them now as teenagers they dont...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @twware50 Do you and your siblings get along as adults?
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @yellowflowers That is awesome! My sister and I have the same age gap. I think its nice you can focus on each kid while they're young, and not have as much sibling rivalries hopefully haha
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @katrina2017 Thank you for this! This is exactly my fear, and I hope if we have a baby, I dont do this to them. Im so sorry it happened to you, I bet that was incredibly isolating. Truthfully, I was so young and overwhelmed before that I might treat a new baby better just because im more...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @leaps I love that he's included in everything, and it worked out to where he's happy to have a sibling! I bet he will be a great father and hopefully not too much of a parent towards her when they're both adults. It also seems to be more common to have large age gaps, more so when there's kids...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @ericlarrybob1 This makes sense and is kind of something I feel bad about. Do you think you will be closer when youre older?
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @seawolf1957 Aww the middle will be more comfortable when the babys a toddler! My middle child is anxious around babies as well. I hope your oldest comes around eventually, with all of you. It sounds like something theyll need to workout with themself
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @seawolf1957 Thank you! I dont know why my brain cant make it that simple because it really is. I guess I just needed to hear it from other people lol. Was the oldest bothered in any way by having such a young sibling?
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @johnlxyz What are the chances of that lol. Did your mother and uncle have a good relationship as adults? And was your son ok with having a baby brother when he was 18?
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @buddyfern2016 Also, was it hard raising two with that age gap? As far as activities for both, or sports/events for your older while having a baby?
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @buddyfern2016 So glad to hear they get along in both families! I know it's no guarantee they'll be friends even close in age, but it's more of a concern spread out. Our family would be similar to the cousins in yours, and I hope that at least one of my girls would be close to the youngest when...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @diaanaa86 I think with someone like you and your husband, your stepson will have a good chance at being okay. Its when they go with their unstable moms that things go south quickly. I think he will love his sister at your house, and also congratulations! When my girls were young, talking it out...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @diaanaa86 I am so sorry about the loss of your baby brother. I can't even imagine, especially when everyone was so excited. Things are so unfair that it's unbelievable sometimes. It's awesome that your husband loves the brother you do have! I agree that all situations are different. My 2 step...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @kfooty Thank you for their perspective!! I hope that as adults they are close. Their experience is something to definitely keep in mind and try to prevent what I can, like the babysitting part. The joys of sibling life with 3 littles were rough for a few years, but I definitely appreciate it...
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @brightflame I appreciate this suggestion! I actually work for a counseling office. I've spent a little over a year working through reasoning and to make sure it wasn't just baby fever that would pass. I continue to be concerned that it's unfair to the child to have such a large age gap, though.
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @lisacorinne Im thankful this is more common than I thought lol I bet your family is great to be around, especially holidays!
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @mike25 Thank you! I love this. What a perfect time to get pregnant lol! Do your kids get along fine, not bothered by the age difference? Im sure they wont have much in common until adulthood but hopefully they all get along fine under the same roof
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    Is it selfish to have kids with large age gaps, 10+ years?

    @rthinking Very solid point. Thats sad for your wife though, hopefully shes close to your sister as well!
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