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@mercifulwoman CW: sub grad Wanna hear something funny? I wrote the exact same thing in a draft in this sub 3 years ago. We ended up waiting for two more years before trying, and it came after doubling my salary through promotions that I worked very hard for. +1 to the comment saying that your...

@charlyrich It's such a bummer but something I've repeated over and over to myself is "I want him to want this and be excited about it too." You got this!! Communication is key

@charlyrich I've been through this exact scenario and I know it can be really hard to see through how it could be better. It's really hard to hear your partner say something, get super excited, and have them change their mind. I'm sorry that happened as I know how disheartening it can be. But...

@zachery One, I don't think it's fair that you got all those comments so I'm sorry for that. Although I'm sure glad you waited, my baby fever was really bad at 16 and `19 and although it has significantly died down since I'm a "real" adult in the "real" world dealing with mortgages and health...

@exicon So 1. yes, eventually (I think haha) 2. this is normal and also SO brutal. 3. you can still pump and give a bottle so you can get an uninterrupted chunk of 4 hours of sleep, just have to pump again within a 24 period to make up for the feeding Also second the pacifier thing if you...

@eastsideeric Sorry for the rambling but hopefully there's something helpful in here lol: It's probably corny but for resilience, I thought about this drawing by Mari Andrews a lot. You've done difficult things before, probably many times, over and over, in your life. There's nothing to say...

@ilkhanapit It’s also sooo annoying when companies do this when teams have been as productive at home as they were in office. What do they expect people to do, stay at that job?? Lol. That 30% is going to disappear quickly.

@mc10304 Gratitude was a huge thing — when I got impatient, I would force myself to list out things i was thankful for and reasons I was happy to not be pregnant/parenting. There will always be impatience for the next phase and learning to be content with the current one has served me well. I...

I posted in the daily grad chat while back whether anyone was interested in "the biggest things that were helpful to me during my 4+ year wait and what I'm really glad I did before having a kid." This is that post! (Mods, hope this is okay!) CW: I am a sub grad and a mom to an almost 5 month...

@magembe Yeah you're right assuming everything goes well it does allow for 3 year age gap! I'm sleep deprived and math is fuzzy haha. Still potentially 8/10 years spend being pregnant or postpartum or nursing or sleep deprived or whatever. I'm hoping college becomes free for our kids generation...

@magembe Yeah I'd think that the start time is less important if the end time is less important. Like if 40 is okay to be 42, you'll probably be a lot better off. If you're strict about not starting until 32 and being finished at 40, that's going to put a lot of pressure on the timeline being...

@veganhippie I don't think the age thing is a big deal as far as fertility issues. Sorry to be a bit of a downer, but I'd worry more about the impact that 3-4 kids back to back would have on your physical and mental health, especially while still early in your career. Research and doctors...