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@elenamaria_9 16 is pretty young to drive. Sounds like he’s not ready, even if it would be more convenient if he were.

@eco It’s so hard — 15 feels quite young. Actually, it feels too young to be working until 1:30 am. They may be your out— is it legal where you are?

@monstershouter Let's call it egocentric. Still normal. Yes, they can certainly be empathetic and think abstractly, but overall (as I am sure you are aware) their brains are still developing. I have an 18 year old and teach 18 year olds -- they are wonderful people. But, they can be quite...

@monstershouter Oh, that’s baloney. Teenagers are narcissistic by nature — it’s developmental.

@jeff98682 Teens do tend to overstate things and have a poor sense of time, so I bet it hasn’t been that long. I am glad she finally told you though!

@kkisling109 I totally hear you mama. It gets better… but sometimes not for a long while. My son and I were also extremely close— sometimes I think that makes them have to differentiate more. My son is a ‘dream kid’ in so many respects, liked and admired by teachers and peers, scholarships...

@caterpillar5 Things might be different with mothers and daughters, and I am not trying to be depressing, but I described the years from 15 to 18 with my son as living with someone who was trying to break up with me all the time. And, there is a certain amount of that which does need to happen...

@caterpillar5 Oh mama. These things hurt. The first time my son chose to ride the track bus home from a game rather than ride home with me, I was so hurt — and that was just the beginning. I once on a whim bought soccer tickets for a once in a lifetime event, and later realized my son would have...

@farmerdex It is incredibly emotionally challenging, even if you have a reasonably ‘good’ kid. Easy to get sucked in. It helps me some times to think of them as a toddler — and sometimes their thinking isn’t so far off that. There is so much pressure on them, and they are navigating a lot. I...

@abovethewaves Oooof. That’s a hard one. I try to remember that teens are like big toddlers — they have a whole lot going on and they don’t regulate well. I am not excusing the behavior, but it is helpful to contextualize. So, I’d warn against the domination style of parenting (believing he is...

@farmerdex It is really hard to see our kids in their big bodies with their big kid brains operating at a big kid level. Have you read much about teens? It helps me to realize that most of the super frustrating teen behavior is pretty normal — Poor planning/judgement, narcissism, lack of...

@farmerdex 5 years of high school sounds like a disaster for everyone. What does she think the solution is? Are there local options where she might be more successful? Also, I’d ditch the attitude with the ‘I am only paying for this once,’ for summer school. You may have a kid that needs summer...

@cuberman Pretty much. Sometimes a rare special thing can be negotiated in advance, but they tend to take it seriously. Also, for future reference — no vacations when he is supposed to be in class in college either.

@simplewoodencross From what you’re describing it seems like he might have attention issues. Has he been checked for ADD and things like that? I agree that he’s self-medicating with the marijuana, and then it’s not appropriate to turn a blind eye. But also, it might be helpful to not think in...

@farmerdex I can’t bear the thought of a 5 th year for her — mostly unmotivated teen who doesn’t enjoy school getting held back and being a year older than her peers? What could go wrong?

@lgonz Sure they do. They can be quite emotional and volatile. I found often times my son would be upset from something at school or with a girlfriend, and that’s exactly when he’d go from 0-60, And it’s so much of a part of being a teenager, I can’t imagine otherwise

@lgonz I found the opposite to be the case — they are like toddlers in big bodies. Yes, something is bothering them, but often it has nothing to do with the parents.

@k3at These years fly by— I would be at all the showings, most likely. But, that’s just me. I’m going to be honest and I thought you were headed towards you were going to miss one showing of the play, not all of them. I’m not trying to do mama guilt, but I would have a hard time not being there...

@metsuko No small talk until 23 - -possibly 25. I used to talk to my son about EVERYTHING. He is 19 and it has been like you describe for a while. .. so much going on in their teenage brains; they are barely hanging in there.

@jaharrttttt I always thought I’d never be the worst— and yet here I am. Slightly better now that he has been at college a semester. The eclipse may be passing!