@sam77 Babysitter for HIM. For HIS date nights, cause it only really benefits him.
Tell him straight up "hey, I know my mom did this but I need the help and our baby is older now, she is helping me on X day" don't ask, just do
@sam77 Um what? He should not get a say when YOU are the primary stay at home parent! Don't let him have the control in this entire situation.
Tell him this, either he pays for a babysitter/mommy's helper for when you need help or have your mom.