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@heatherlilly Thanks for sharing! Yes, I would imagine being put in charge of childcare as a child would create some resentment, but it's wonderful that it didn't seep into your relationship with them and that you're close.

@mitchellh Thanks for sharing! Three sounds so ideal to me, but I think we're going to end up staying with our two, sadly. How many kids do you have, or want?

@nehuge Thanks for sharing! I have two girls and making my youngest into the middle child gives me pause - she loves being the baby, and I worry that she'd feel "forgotten" like you did as the middle child and second girl! But agree that 3 sounds nice because there are more opportunities for...

@angelina185 That's an interesting family dynamic, and the fact that the middle was babied is such a reversal of the stereotypical forgotten middle child/coddled youngest dynamic!

@angelina185 Thanks for sharing! Why do you think you stopped spending time together around 8?

@jason106p This is pretty striking to me! The other reasons you listed are perfectly valid, but it does ultimately read like you would otherwise likely be pretty happy stopping at 3, and the above is really not a good reason, which I think you know. You said that you're already at times...

@angelko24 Thank you for answering! Having more one-on-one quality time with my girls is the one thing that I try to focus on in being happy with stopping at two. But 3 does sound so nice.

@scrambled That sounds like a very sweet childhood. Interesting that you had 3 siblings and wished for even more! Your child, I'm sure, will benefit from having a big extended family as an only. But that must be wild for you to have grown up with such a big family and now be part of a small one.

@we124982 Thank you for sharing! Seems like you mostly grew up as having one sibling and have replicated that in your own family.

@christopher11 That sounds fun! And pretty big age gaps except for the last two. Did that create any resentment among the girls that your parents wanted a boy so much? And with stopping at 2, do you think about advantages and disadvantages your kids will have with a smaller family?

@melissauk That's interesting - I read a study that found that even the perception of parental favoritism has really lasting negative effects on sibling relationships - did it get in the way of yours and your siblings' relationships? Thanks for sharing!

@outtaluck I wouldn't assume this - just because you had unexplained infertility the first time does not mean you will have trouble conceiving again, especially since you did end up conceiving spontaneously. Don't start trying before you actually want to have a baby. The recommendation for...

@spiritlead2013 Just responding to the space concern, we live in a 3-bedroom house and I work from home so use one of the rooms as an office during the day. We have 2 girls, ages 4 and almost 2. We have the younger one's crib in the office and have since we moved her out of our room at 6 months...

@want2bsober Just so you know, it is not medically recommended to begin another pregnancy so quickly - less than 6 months is considered high risk, and the WHO’s recommendation for spacing between pregnancies (birth to pregnancy) is 12-18 months for best outcomes for mother and baby. It’s very...

@macb Yeah, that is my big concern about just stopping at two, that it puts more pressure on that one sibling relationship. That's interesting that you wanted another sibling more in childhood than adulthood - it was opposite for me as an only child, where I always wanted a sibling but more...

@ladyghosthunter My husband is a lawyer and got his JD at 34 (career change) but he went to a top 10 law school and had scholarships that meant he graduated with very little debt (and what little he did have we were able to pay it all off pretty much immediately with the proceeds from selling my...

@chasingod Interesting that you all had 2 kids despite growing up with 3 and thinking 3 is ideal! What's the reason(s) for that, if you don't mind answering?

@tigersense I'm sorry. Remember that if you hit the very best days, and you have no fertility problems, the chance of conception is still only around 30% each cycle. So hitting it just right and still not getting pregnant that cycle absolutely doesn't mean there is anything wrong with your...

@epalmer Aw, it's sweet to hear that you longed for a sister - I'm glad I could give my girls each other and so far they adore each other. But yeah, having just two puts more pressure on the one sibling relationship and that's part of why I've wanted three, though it's pretty unlikely it will...

@rabbitrevenge That sounds so idyllic! I'm sure your daughter will benefit from having such a big extended family, too.