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@batman21 Umm what?! I was never a “car seat nazi” but he had and still has a car seat at 8. At 4’9” it’s of course a booster now, but a 2 year old?! Holy crap. You need to find some better friends. Not because of the car seat issue specifically (although this is a ridiculous one because it’s a...

@vl32 My husband is one of 7, and even before having kids he thought 1-2 kids. He loves his siblings, but the lack of available resources made him not want a big family.

@vl32 We ended up with an only because I simply couldn’t handle the mental health implications (or the childcare costs) of a second. I did grieve the life I thought I would have, but having an only child was the right choice for our family. I am an only child myself, so I think it made the...

@elenchus It’s not crazy, but my question to you is: do you want another child? Or are you clinging to the vision of how you think your family ought to look? My husband and I though we would have 2-3 kids. After a difficult 3rd trimester, traumatic birth, and the baby and toddler years, we...

@alexd97 We ended up OAD for lots of reasons, but chief among them was my mental health taking a serious turn into the gutter because my husband also worked away a lot and it was basically me. Losing my autonomy was extremely difficult for me. Having a second would have put me over the edge.

@987abc I am not in that world anymore since mine is in middle school, but I know that centers around here (MCOL midwestern city) are $500 a week for infants. It goes down as they get older of course. The least amount we paid when our son was in a center full time when he was 4 was $230 a week...

@writeletters15 My 8 year old is pretty big (4’9” at his last exam in August) and he still has a booster. Honestly, it doesn’t hurt anything to keep him in one.

@jlkuhioe Yes. We have a larger village than most. We still decided to be one and done, because even with a village, absolutely nobody else is there when you’re in potty training hell. A lot of it for me was that my husband works out of town a lot, so I do a lot of solo parenting. Even with...

@kevinbama A very good friend of mine and her husband decided to have another when their first was 6 and begging for a baby sibling. Well, 5 years later, he is headed to middle school, finds that sister more of an annoyance than anything, and she is not neurotypical, requiring a lot more time...

@faiththeword We had a few determining factors. We initially wanted a second when our son was 2ish, but we could not afford the daycare for two kids simultaneously, and decided to wait until our son was 5 and going into school and child care for him would significantly decrease. By the time we...

@paloma22 Honestly, I had a really hard time until he was 5. I admittedly liked the 2-3 years phase better than the infant phase, but I didn’t feel like I really enjoyed parenting until my son was in school. I was not a stay at home mom, so it wasn’t that there was separation where there hadn’t...

@cescalouise That is so good to hear! If you have friends and family in the US, check on them. We are not okay.

@cescalouise I am not a ton of help probably, but I have an only child. I remember all too well how difficult the early years were. If I were in your shoes, I would abort. But I don’t know where you’re located and how difficult that may be, especially after yesterday. I would honestly consider...

@amandabritobaez I was like this. We had a date to try again due to daycare costs for 2 being too much for us. But as the date approached, and I saw how much more independent my son was, I was filled with dread and anxiety about starting all over again. For me it was hard to know when my first...

@annaad0617 Yes! So much this! My husband’s grandparents designed our house. There is no dead space- every single hallway has cupboards, there are 45 cupboard and drawer faces in our kitchen (that work- not just for show) and two built in cutting boards. I have 87 square feet of counter space (I...

@danielgene That is tragic. Also has absolutely zero to do with being homeschooled or choosing to homeschool.

@debbs3692 Yes. I did feel that way, that I was defective because I couldn’t fathom having another. But what I have come to realize is that 1. The women I knew had support. My husband was working out of town 4-6 days a week every week. I was handling everything. I had no ability to tap out...

@yesjesus Yes! We don’t have an open concept because our house was built on 1984. I love that I can’t see in my kitchen from my living room, and the dining room is nowhere a tv can be seen. I love it.

@katieoh I am genuinely curious now and want to see this post. Can anyone tell me, even in a PM what sub to look for? No cross posting. I could not home school due to my lack of abilities and the fact that I bring in half of our family’s income. But homeschooling done right can be wonderful! I...

@solarisus No. He has a ton of cousins he sees regularly and sees sibling dynamics that he has no interest in having in his home. He loves the fun when with friends and cousins, but likes having quiet decompression space.