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@onlyjesus316 It's akin to an oxygen mask on a plane. Put yours on before his. So yea, go to the bathroom, lock the door. It's not a negative outcome though. You are showing him that we need to take care of ourselves first, then others. And it will happen less and less the more you do it.

@pastorjeremiah So I typically leave the house at 8 and do drop off, in the office 830/845. And then I'm home around 5/530. My husband does pick up. My commute is only about 20 minutes. I wake up between 6/630 and pray I have woken before my child. Jump in shower, get myself ready. My husband...

@iwantchristmore28 So your baby's sleep is par for the course. Very normal. You could sleep train and that should help. Your baby will wake up less, and therefore you will wake up less. If you sleep train it will be very hard to continue sleeping in the babies room. Alternatively, can you...

@chillcwill It's because you are both working, so you both need childcare, hence it should go against both salaries. If you stay at home, you should take into account your missed earnings, then your missed earnings potential, missed contributions to retirement, social security etc. and that...

@musicalpilgrim I'm curious, is a 9hr day common for your industry or workplace?

@junebug72 Yes so true. I have a friend, also an engineer, who turned her child forward facing as soon as she could. Another friend has a baby 1 month older and couldn't believe she made such a reckless decision. But it was great to see my intelligent friends talk it out. Neither claimed to be...

@daviddale3 Every pre-school I've heard of calls it nap time but it's really quiet/nap time. As in half the class will quietly read books, the other half will nap. They will definitely give her the opportunity to fall asleep, it's up to her to take it if that makes sense.

@follow_the_word I think this nuance is missing in nearly every aspect of parenting. I'm lucky that I'm an engineer and have completed risk based assessments on many many things professionally. I apply that risk framework to the rest of my life. (But with less math and documentation). It's...

@onlyjesus316 My kid is in crazy tantrum mode, but I think the difference may be, it just does not get to me. So if he wakes up and wants to be held standing up, and I don't want to stand, I'd say something like, "ok, you want me to stand up, but I'm tired, and I'm going to sit" and if it...

@rockhopper72 What is the research? I'd love to read it.

@whitm11 It's a large national (Canadian) company and it offers a pension. The pension becomes really valuable as you get within 10yrs of retirement and near impossible to walk away from. The company knows this and doesn't treat it's close to retiring employees well. So they really are "sticking...

@katrina2017 That's fair. Thanks for your explanation, I think I just had different expectations for this sub and it doesn't seem to be very different to me vs. other subs. I also feel like I see the same posts about sleep training at least once a week. There is only so much science behind it...

@katrina2017 That's fair. But just go through and report 90% of the comments on this post? I feel like a curmudgeon. Much easier for me to just unsub. I also don't feel it should be on mods to make this the community it should be. If you sub to science based parenting, post in the spirit of...

@moonlightlaura Same here. I like working. I don't know if I like my job, but I certainly like working more than being a SAHP. Parents don't need to sacrifice their own happiness for their children. Families need to find their own personal optimum. Life is full of trade offs, we need to pick and...

@whitm11 I work for a company that tends to employ people for decades. Many people have never worked elsewhere. I have noticed a trend so far, you work really hard when your young, do the bare minimum to stay employed when you have young kids and slowly ramp back up as time goes on and then lose...

@mikalmo I cant believe the comments being left in this thread on science based parenting. Your anecdote is not science. What your therapy sessions revealed about yourself are not science. I am just stunned. Yours is the only reasonable comment I've seen so far.

@lamberto If it makes you feel better my kid is sleep trained and he sleeps better than he used to, but he doesn't sleepy great. He's very inconsistent but we're all getting more sleep than before, but not a ton of sleep.

@iwantchristmore28 My baby ate during the night till he was 9 months old and I decided enough. Two nights of night weaning and we've never looked back. He was just doing it out of habit. Next baby will be night weaned much earlier.

@carrie1973 My son will lay quietly for a maximum of 1 minute before calling out to us. Maybe it would be better if he was in a bed but right now, that's the situation.

@albert123 My 2yo watches TV but it's a maximum of 1hr a day. Normally on weekdays it's 30 minutes of video games with his dad (I have no idea if this is bad for him, he loves it and asks for it) before bed, if we have time. It's probably more like 45/1hr every other day. And then on the...