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@eian11 But, to be devils advocate, what happens when you tell them what to do/don't do the first time right now? I'm guessing it's some level of noncompliance. If counting works on any level, you're already on your way to a better situation. And I would also argue that counting trains them to...

@eian11 I don't know if you will find what you're looking for, but I hope you do. I found such inconsistencies in them, and knowing that even psychologists, those that should have all the answers, have different theories on child development, I decided I had to trust myself with the knowledge I...

@eian11 It sounds like you've been researching a lot of parenting methods. So it sounds like you could read between the lines on the things you should not do, like hitting them, excessive punishments, screaming at them, etc. But beyond that I worry you may be relying too heavily on them. If...

@jbblkh This breaking news just in: kids can have two new pairs of shoes. In fact, depending on their growth, getting an additional pair a half or full size bigger (if aunt is so inclined) would likely be used the same school year. Or just the same size so when one jumps in a mud puddle or needs...

@%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B9%D8%B5%D8%B1%D9%8A%D8%A9 Thank you for bringing this up. We all take risks unintentionally, but people with bad intentions find kids easy to overpower, which means we have to at least try to help them avoid it. My parents had a secret family phrase. If someone showed up and...

@mcdiggety 22F degrees here this morning, I told my 7th grader it's coat time. She said "duh, mom, it's only 22!" 😳 She thinks she's invincible because she ran in 38 degree weather in a 3k the other weekend without a jacket. But I had the smart speaker repeat that the wind-chill was 10 degrees...

@samuelh24 Yeah this is true. Their lockers are so small. My daughter has a band instrument and sometimes a small duffle bag for sports and a lunchbox - the struggle is real.

@humbledbygrace89 11 years here and YEP. I really did think I'd forget. I asked my mother why she ever birthed me (second kid) and she said "you kind of just forget the pain" she had no pain relief for me or my sibling for our births. I assumed that would happen to me as well but it sure did...

@caterpillar5 I would start by asking your daughter if she held two tickets and gave one to her friend, but then her friend's boyfriend found out about it. Then boyfriend figured they should go together instead, so he started asking your daughter over and over if she could not just go and give...

@scottwilson Have you looked into ADHD? I don't know if that ties into your situation or not but your post is reminding me of my daughter's issues of emotional regulation, inability to task switch and general argumentative behavior when not on her medication. My kid has been diagnosed with...

@moshil Agreed. If OP can find something he would actually like to drop I would encourage it. Smart kids experience burn out and it sounds like he's fighting it and losing.

@roxchristian I was told once by my pediatrician that the reason my daughter was acting out was because we had just moved. Well first of all, no, this was a pattern not a new event, and second he was telling me the house that got SHOT AT was less stressful than the "stressful" new middle class...

@giobob If the family therapist is educated in kids with alcohol and substance abuse behavior I think you should meet with them separately to discuss this question and also to discuss what options are available to you with the court system he'll be going through, or if they know where you can...

@ccm500 If I made her stay home I would make sure there was an agreement to see him in some capacity that you, the parent, are comfortable with. Otherwise she's never going to tell you the next time this happens and there will be a next time. Personally I'd let her go, but I would drive her and...

@levanthai I don't understand why the school bus hasn't changed to assigned seats. That's usually the way to get kids away from each other. After that, if the offender (whoever that ends up being) keeps acting up, they get the first seat behind the bus driver. This was a no-brainer to me as a...