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@heartlandmommy2011 Yes, exactly! We went through a lot and are just grateful for our son and content with our family as it is now. I'm glad to hear that those close to you have been so understanding.

@martinyjoice Yes, people like to throw around adoption like it's a simple, straightforward way to add to your family, but it really isn't. It can be beautiful, but it's also heartbreaking for everyone involved, even when things go "right." You are strong for choosing the family size that's best...

@colleensa Thank you for sharing your experiences with infertility and the foster care system. I'm so glad you've found happiness and contentment with your family of three, even if it isn't what you'd planned on originally. I also had to grieve the family I thought I would have when we went...

@danieljd Thanks for your encouragement! There were so many things we didn't get to choose on our journey to parenthood, and that's been really hard. Now, even though being OAD wouldn't have been my first choice in the past, it's something I feel good about choosing now because it's right for...

@acfjanine Yeah, I always have to laugh a little when people throw out "you can always adopt" like it's no big deal. Adoption can be beautiful (if done ethically), but it is also really tough. It will almost certainly painful for the birth family, the adoptive child, and the adoptive parents...

@devandt Wow, you're so right. The people who really matter will love us enough to support us. The people who aren't supportive probably just don't know us well enough to have an opinion I should be concerned about anyway. Thanks so much for your perspective! It was really thought-provoking...

@adammoon2 It sounds like you've endured a lot as well, and I love and respect you for your choice too! Thank you for your kindness.

@adammoon2 Thank you so much for your thoughts! One thing I really appreciate about this sub is that people with different values communicate so respectfully and support one another. It's really nice. I normally lurk on Reddit, but this community just seemed so positive and encouraging, I feel...

@skyybluegirl Thanks for your kind words and for the recommendation! I'll check that community out as well!

@michelebolduc1 Thanks so much! That's really encouraging. I think most people from our church will be supportive, there are just a few who I'm afraid will try to talk me out of it or be otherwise unhelpful with their words. I'm just praying that I will be able to respond graciously, no matter what.

@shelray Thank you so much!

[Trigger warning: infertility, adoption, NICU stuff] This is going to be a long one, so buckle up. For my husband (34) and I (31), being one and done was not our original plan. In the beginning, we both wanted 2-3 kids. We both enjoyed pretty positive relationships with our own siblings and...