@kaleidoscopeheart Honestly this just sounds so hard. I think you need to give yourself a lot of grace. I would focus on finding more reliable childcare. That will make the biggest difference in your daily stress. Hugs mama.
@thfdoc I agree it’s odd and off putting. I think the only way this might not be as bad is if she truly thought you may not return from leave and was excited her friend may have the opportunity.