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@lost9933 Her actual website is also great - she posts a lot of information regarding statistics, research articles, personal stories, etc.

@anonymous21 I kind of love that she'd prefer add a dog to her family over a sibling - I am sure many kids feel the same!

@paulcanpat I think this is more common than people realize or want to believe - even if a person doesn't SAY it, you can FEEL it. And honestly, children know if their parents are unhappy. It would take a lot of conscious effort for a truly regretful parent to NOT let it show. Some people know...

@acl777 That's awful! My obsession was SIDS/sleep accidents and illness (leading to death). My daughter was held constantly while she was napping so I knew that she was breathing, and I forced my husband to share night shifts with me for the first 4 months so that she always had eyes on her. It...

@gotjesusromans109 And honestly, there are people who DO regret their children, but are too ashamed to say it out loud. Having a child you don't really want isn't fair to anyone.

@ronaldus Yep! No need to make this more of an issue than it is! And it's common for early school projects to have some discussion about students' family members - OP is being overly sensitive here. Projecting your own sadness/insecurity does the child no favors, and she may start to feel...

@acl777 I didn't have any major physical complications, but like you, I suffered severe PPA/PPOCD. It was HELL to go through and also hurt my marriage as I essentially became a completely different person after my mental health went down hill. I also became angry and sometimes rageful towards my...

@thehook For me, the baby stage was hard in terms of sleep deprivation, lifestyle adjustment, and really bad PPA/PPOCD. Breastfeeding and pumping were miserable experiences for me as well. I personally love the toddler stage much more, but it's EXHAUSTING in a totally different way. Being a SAHM...

@srracing Just wanted to add that for fence-sitters that would only have another with a large age gap, I think it's fine! I don't intend to have another, but will say that my only close sibling relationship (out of my three siblings) is my brother who is 11 years younger than me. We were ever...

@sjblum I've noticed major relationship declines in many of my friends' marriages after the second child, some of which did not durvive in the end, and having a second was the beginning of the end for my brother's marriage (although in his case, his wife had "accidentally" missed some bc pills...

@chadgervais You are not cheating your husband - you had an "ideal" that changed after you experienced child-birth and began the journey of raising your son. NOBODY really understands how difficult it is UNTIL they experience it for themselves. Your husband may have wished for a sibling, but he...

@altrechts Seriously...the friend is judgemental, rude and projecting her fears onto OP. So sick of the overly-dramatic "alone in the world" line. As if though your child will forever be a helpless infant with zero connections to anyone else in the outside world. That is a very pessimistic...

@soosh8005 This is something my husband and I have talked about - he is turning 40 this year and I will be 38 (we were 34 and 36 when our daughter was born). He absolutely does not want to he nearing retirement while a hypothetical younger child is still in high school. Some older parents will...

@farmerdan My comment will seem a little unusual, but my primary fixation during my bout with severe PPA/PPOCD was SIDS or a severe illness affecting my young infant that would lead to death. I know that statistically the first year is a period of vulnerability and that kept my brain in high...

@patriciairlu Similarly, any "pain" from wishing to have a sibling as an only child likely pales in comparison to the pain of having a sibling who either abuses you or treats you like you don't exist (unless they need something!). I will feel bad if my only ends up resenting her lack of...

@clone_25 I've touched on this before, but I think people assume that sibling problems or lack of closeness is due to some shortcoming on the parents' part. I'm glad you mentioned that you both are close to your parents and that your parents are good people, yet the sibling relationship isn't...

@walterm%C3%BCller She wouldn't be the first - it's more common for a woman to "forget" to take the pill OR convince her partner she isn't ovulating and thus it's "safe" to skip a condom entirely, but I don't doubt some women will sabotage the condoms themselves. Again, l would be very careful...

@luminous_scribe Yeah, this would annoy the Hell out of me, and the constant badgering would absolutely cause fights after awhile. It must be exhausting to have so many conversations involving the same damn issue! All I can say is this: BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT BIRTH CONTROL!! The number of people...

@uluvsamm My older brother is the same - resented me from a very early age and the resentment turned into physical and mental abuse. He destroyed my self-esteem and often made me afraid to live in my own home. It only stopped when I went to live full-time with our father, while he remained...

@jessieward ABSOLUTELY - I feel this so much! So many Boomer grandparents want the grandkids so they have pics to slap up on Facebook, but otherwise, help, or even visits, are few and far between. My father and step-mother live only 15 minutes away, and I basically had to FIGHT with my father to...