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@themanwhosinned Haha yeah. We all have maladaptive coping that comes through. It’s another conversation. progress and not perfection. It’s ok not to be ok. Getting things twisted while trying our best is a thing. Thanks for your share

@mikeyrobbie Thanks. It’s part of it, I learned. I was recommended to watch some dad you tubers with him. So he feels the solidarity and lessons the isolation. Perhaps it will help facilitate /remind him to let go of guilt and…well I actually don’t know what could get him of this feeling of...

@bradley5 Thanks for the insight

@katrina2017 Yeah I learned today his expectations about family and the financial pressure he was putting on himself was causing the acting out. And several things other commentors mentioned. It was a good, call much needed breakthrough. Glad this subreddit is full of empathy and helpful advise...

@pocahuhntosss Thanks for sharing🙏🏻

Maybe also his perceived role as a man is threatened. He’s from a traditional family culture and has now adopted a modern western life style of equal partnership. Maybe he has no role models and is struggling feeling emasculated or worried I will never cook again and feeling trapped like he’ll...

@danishajaz Yeah that’s a bit of a conundrum: he needs support and a village to help him, without it he feels unseen and low worth. He acknowledged that and stated that as a need. He said he can’t go to family for that kind of support. Where are the mends groups? Daddit. He also said he can’t...

@perfect786 Thank you

@perfect786 Thank you. Would I be able to successfully suggest he seek that ? He did see a doctor recently at my suggestion, but not the mental health kind. Perhaps I can ask the midwife (discreetly) today to suggest some resources to him

Edit: thanks to your shares and insights, I took action that helped : asking him how he is feeling, staying calm and listening, watching dad resources online (or reading about the subject) together. He revealed his ‘truth (feeling huge pressure put on himself due to our financial situation and...