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@chenml60 Oh I'm sorry that's so difficult! It's probably not what you want to hear, but I would probably co-sleep for now in that case. And get one of those adult size really warm onesies to avoid the blanket situation. I think being sleep deprived is probably more dangerous than safely...

@chenml60 I don't co-sleep so I can't offer advice on the practicalities, but here are some alternatives that worked for us: taking shifts! Ideally with the parent who is 'off' sleeping in a different room. Formula allows you to devide the night into two shifts so that both set of parents get...

@tiltv4 I'm the oldest with two brothers 3 and 8 years younger than me, so I was 8 and my brother was 5 when the youngest was born. I had a great relationship with my baby brother and we're still very close. He's also going to be best man at his older brother's wedding this year. So based on...

@tantman My youngest brother is 8 years younger than me and 5 years younger than my other brother. We are all really close, especially now that we're adults. We are often joking that I was his 'second mother', but in a totally positive way. We were really close when he was a toddler / child, and...

@jello123 On the point of #1 being a unicorn baby - I can relate. Ours was also a unicorn baby, super easy sleeper (although not high sleep needs, just easy to fall asleep and sleep through the night) and always a happy baby / toddler. We haven't yet hit the terrible twos so things can still...

@jakelab The 'future dinner table' thing never resonated with me, instead I asked myself "do I want to meet another unique person? Do I want to love them, follow them through life and get to know them, see the world through their eyes?" Because I think every child deserves a "yes" to those...

@leah_talbot It's such a personal decision, but to me, 2 year age gap always sounded really exhausting. I have a two year old now and I'm so glad I can fully concentrate on her. I think in a year's time she will be so much more understanding, helpful and independent. We haven't (yet) hit the...

@anlytcphil I actually prefer for daycare to speak in English only and not to use German words, so that she can learn which person speaks which language. German is our minority language, only I speak it with her. So naturally she doesn't have many German words yet, but I'm not too word because...

@bobharms Oh yeah, definitely agree. This question is just the starting point, the 'necessary' but not 'sufficient' condition so to speak. But OP was talking about feeling guilty that they were 'probably OAD' so that's why I phrased it like that

@chopper1690 I hear you. What I would ask you: Do you have the desire to meet another unique, incredible person, be their world, see them grow, discover their personality? If not, that's okay. Don't feel guilty. I think every child deserves to be truly wanted, so if you don't feel like that...

@clare5890 All your reasons speak to staying OAD, the only reason to have another child is guilt. Guilt isn't a good enough reason to bring another person into this world. You don't have to say no forever, but you can tell your husband "right now, this terrifies me and I believe children deserve...