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@rapberrylatte Did not work for us

@zelda_freak Respectfully, I disagree that he can’t control his impulse to push. It is an automatic response which he can learn to replace with other behaviors. I have seen him learn to control other impulses previously; for example he used to want to bite us all the time, and I taught him what...

@pokerfaceblonde It sounds like the water is too hot too fast, you can either switch bottles (we love the Dr Browns glass bottles), or use a bottle warmer which will heat with less of a sudden shock.

@faithfulglow The literal easiest thing to swap is cleaning products since you will use those up and need to buy more. When you need to buy more, remove fragrances and dyes. Dishwashing #1, clothing detergent #2, floor cleaning products #3. High focus on replacing the worst offenders of...

@godsendwoman06 A punchy clown type thing could be interesting. I have been telling him it’s okay to push, hit and stomp his stuffies and pillows but he doesn’t always want to.

@singlestuggler Thank you, I’m looking forward to that! They love play wrestling and grabbing each other (mutually) so it’s a tough line. We were thinking that when my husband is available he can be on “vigilance” duty and 1. Try and stop it before it happens “you want to push, i won’t let you...

@loveisnot143its316 Thank you for empathizing and validating me. It is so hard since I was raised in a dysfunctional household and I’m trying to heal my own anxious-disorganized attachment. I’m feeling like a terrible parent right now especially with many comments saying “gentle parenting...

@keepingsteady Good thought, we will try and keep it more brief. Definitely a tough stage with us which we are trying to do our best to keep everyone safe through.

@kjones Thank you, I’ll definitely work on having more talks like this. I do emphasize when he is being gentle and tell him how that behavior is appreciated. I stopped timeouts since he started just running away to give himself a time out after pushing. But maybe that’s a step in the right...

@jesusislord16 When I have done a “time out” he just would push the baby and then run to his timeout spot. I don’t have any space where I can have them both in my view but also separated. Is there something else you might suggest?

@ellimae That’s a good idea. I got the pack n play out this morning after reading everyone’s ideas and we have used it several times already since the kids got back from daycare early a couple hours ago. I can put some things in it for him to play with in there.

@psk567 That’s an interesting idea. I have been teaching him about asking the baby for space and he has been using that phrase a lot so maybe giving him a baby-free space could be really helpful for him. I’ll have to think on what that can be.

@sunsetrose I agree and I’m hoping to get ideas for consequences by making this post. What do you suggest the consequence should be? I tried doing timeouts and he started pushing the baby and then running away to his timeout spot on his own.

@angeldawn I got out the pack n play! It is definitely hard to learn impulse control, but I know he can do it since he used to bite us all the time and I taught him what to do instead. He is definitely full of boisterous energy and doesn’t always know what do to with it.

@angeldawn With the layout of our house I can’t currently do that without removing him from view, but if we got another set of gate fencing we could make a fenced area for the toddler perhaps. Or maybe we just need to break out the pack n play for him. I want to avoid shutting him somewhere...

@summer37087 The thing is they aren’t always playing together when it happens. Often times they are just doing their own thing and then the toddler will go over and push the baby. I commented below but I tried doing timeouts and he would keep pushing the baby but instead of staying and making a...

My toddler (2.5) says he thinks it is fun to push his baby brother (11mo). Often times the baby will be walking around and toddler will run up to him and powerfully shove him to the ground where the baby will often hit his head. This will happen within a minute of me being out of direct reach of...