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@laura100 I still have my maiden name and my only has my maiden name- and I don't even like or speak to my family of origin! All these jackasses walking around in current year like they're Henry VIII.

@gembeldolar I grew up broke and found it difficult to adjust to hiring help, but the time cost savings won me over. We have an upper middle class income, and I hire out absolutely everything I can. I've got a cleaner, a handyman (who also does yard work), and a laundry service. I'll never go...

@sakashoe I also did some work with the unhoused population and it's sad at best. There's next to zero resources for people, and a lot of these people did nothing wrong, just fell on hard times. Many of my adult clients were victims of abuse (adult or childhood) and/or had serious mental health...

@sakashoe Yes ma'am! Maine is beautiful. Surprisingly medium cost of living though, and the housing inventory is low. I work remotely so we can pull it off. If you can deal with living in the sticks, hard winters, lack of convenience services, and are a minimum level of self-sufficient you'll be...

@sakashoe We're nomads so I've gone to so many different VA hospitals and systems, and observed a wide range in standards of care. I was at the Phoenix VA back when they were neck deep in all their bullshit- I was breaking down the patient advocates door several times a month in that hellhole...

@sakashoe As far as regular mental health appointments go, I've seen a mix of psychologists, psychiatrists, nurse practitioners, and social workers. Social workers at the masters degree level are typically licensed to provide 1:1 and group therapy so it makes sense to have some on staff. I've...

@keepitsimple144 For what it's worth, my wife and I (both 38 F) are veterans and get all our medical care through the VA. I haven't had a single in-person mental health appointment in person for years. It's all been telehealth, which I highly prefer. The VA widely allows mental health...

@axolotl Appreciate that, yea I was absolutely not okay with the fucked up distribution of labor. Like I'd mentioned before, my complete takeover of household tasks in the beginning of our marriage was born out of necessity. My wife was serving in a sensitive, mission-critical position and her...

@axolotl Actually, my entire point was that my wife's shitty behavior wasn't fine at any point; it was just easier to ignore when she was presenting as male, because that's how I was raised. I was internally misogynistic before I went to therapy and worked through my religious trauma and...

@axolotl She. My wife is a woman. Sounds like you're a transphobic piece of shit.

@rubbles My wife and I (both 38 F) have been through this. I was the stay at home mom while our kid was little. My wife was still in the active duty military at the time, and she was working a terrible schedule: 12 hour shifts that randomly rotated between days and nights. It was awful and she...

@meslit Autistic firstborn (and only) mother of an autistic firstborn (and only) child. It's almost like genes correlate with autism 😆

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@refinersfire As an Italian I am begging y'all to roast the garlic before you spread it on toast! It'll taste way better with the same medicinal benefits. You can just pop whole heads of garlic in a pan, douse them in olive oil, and roast them on a low heat. When you squeeze the roasted garlic...

@lgonz My only is also 17 and I remember every single detail of the birth and recovery. It was pretty bad.

@noelie She's an incredible kid and I'm very lucky to have her!

@dennisbon If your kids are passionate about a certain sport, I can absolutely see the reasoning behind throwing some time and money into it. But not at the expense of the family, you as parents and spouses, and the kids themselves. Developmentally children need unstructured play. Honestly, I...

@girl4god86 I had hyperemesis gravidarum during my pregnancy. I also developed postpartum OCD with psychotic features after delivering (and my preexisting depression got worse). I don't think I'd mentally survive another pregnancy, let alone physically. Thankfully my uterus made the choice...

@criley I hear your frustration, I really do. The thing you've got to remember is that your partner is entirely in charge of managing their own mental illness and treatment. You're there to be a support for them, but you shouldn't be lighting yourself on fire to keep them warm. I've got some...

@criley Sounds like a divorce would seriously improve your overall quality of life. Men like that don't change unless they want to change. He knows what he's doing is wrong, he knows he's hurting you, and he knows he's neglecting your kid. He just doesn't care.