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@turnerfamily00 If you send your child to another home, you have an obligation to inform the adult in charge of any allergies. That's just common sense.

@spiritualgrowth I wouldn't be fussed about the bath, I really wouldn't. I've bathed other people's kids after a muddy playdate. At 5, it just seems natural to chuck them in the bath with your own kids. But I'd be concerned about WHY you're concerned. It's not just the bath, you've had odd...

@sforb Me. I've done it a million times. I'm really sensing some major cultural confusion here. Where I raised my kids, no one would bat an eyelid at their 5-y-o being chucked into the bath with the other kids at the end of the day. In fact we'd be grateful. One less chore.

@plaura94515 I'm in Australia and it's hot here most of the time. I'd be worried if my kids were living a lifestyle where they DIDN'T need a bath every night! They're dirty little muckers, and that's because they play outdoors and get very rowdy and that's the way it should be, imho. ALso...

@katrina2017 Ikr? I'd be sweaty and uncomfortable getting into clean work clothes without a shower, and sometimes after a busy day I need another before getting into bed. And I can't imagine putting my kids to bed without their bath! This thread is confusing me.

@rkj I suppose that's one major difference, I come from a hot climate country where it is normal, even expected, that you shower or bathe at least once a day. If it was snowy, I might have a very different schedule.

@maggie1105 Jeez. Don't you smell, though?

@rkj I'm sorry, but... where is it common that adults or kids NOT bathe every day? Genuine question.

@nat12 I mean, maybe at the beginning we'd get on the blower and say shall I give Casey a bath with mine... I really don't remember. Just that it doesn't seem at all weird to me, and I know my mother was the same. Also, maybe there's a rural/urban cultural divide going on? In the bush people...

@saulfactuspaul Yeah that sounds about right. I remember nude wrestling with my brother until I was about 10 or 11, then one day it suddenly struck me, and after that I didn't feel comfortable nude around others anymore. But 7 or 8, sure, chuck the lot of them in the bath. God knows they all...

@lordfeather It sounds like she has not bonded with your baby. This is important, not just to her mental health but to the child's. A key concept in infant psychology is the need to "feel secure in their primary attachment". It sounds like you are the baby's primary attachment at this point and...

@nat12 Maybe this is a cultural difference. I'm Australian. I've often thrown kids into the bath with mine after a playdate, and other parents have done the same with mine. I've never given it a second thought. I feel like OP senses a bad vibe around this woman, and the bath is not really the...

@jakehostetler You misunderstand, I wasn't saying it's not a problem if she leaves. I was saying that dad being the primary caregiver was not a problem in itself. Obviously it's much better for the baby if they stay together even if she becomes primary breadwinner, him primary caregiver.

@marshmelly Absolutely true. Mom is not bonding, and that's a problem. If she never does, she'll probably leave at some point, and dad will be the primary caregiver, which is not a problem in itself, just that... from the way he's talking, that wasn't their plan. And now he's going to have to...

@boanerges1989 Or her maternal instinct just might not be strong. It isn't in every woman. We're not all meant to be mothers. Sounds like Dad here has bonded, so baby is getting what she needs. It might work better in this family if Dad is the primary caregiver, you can't just assume post-natal...