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@berk60 I doubt the memory will be retained long-term, but when she's 13 she may declare she wants to grow up to be an astrophysicist and not remember why. My daughter's core 3-year-old memory is of getting sick and puking. She was pretty much traumatized at the time, not knowing her body could...

@davidjgreen If it takes more than 3 months, reach out for therapy. You may need to see several therapists until you find one who is a good fit. Time does not heal all wounds. You can go into, say, a divorce forum and find people active who were divorced years ago and are stuck not moving on...

@davidjgreen You find yourself. You rediscover your interests. You broaden your friendship circle. You live your own life. This is true whether the issue is an empty nest or a spouse dying or going through divorce.

@opupi Yes, a young adult.

@garberse If my child is trying to be productive, I can't imagine asking them to leave. The American economy is broken. There are some cultures across the globe where multiple generations of family members live under the same roof because of strong family relationships and the many benefits...

@veronicajohn Your 15-year-old is a young adult. By that age, she is no longer living in her home. She is living in her parent's home that is decorated and run the way the parents want it to be. Of course she doesn't want to decorate your tree with your ornaments. She has no agency in your home...

@npfionna Good luck.

@shadow7580 It does create lasting damage no matter what parents want to think. At this age, making a 15-year-old do such things is about control, forced assimilation to parental norms. The child is growing up and is now a young adult. Some parents don't want to accept that.

@npfionna A teenager does not need guidance in decorating a Christmas tree. All OP is creating is acrimony and resentment surrounding Christmas traditions. And none of those adult things she must do in the future involve spending time with family or performing her childhood family traditions...

@gmeyers1944 If she's as dedicated to her phone as you suggest, her next step is to buy a burner phone and set up second social media accounts which will be her main accounts for talking to friends. If you've already been hawkishly monitoring her social media, she may already be using two sets...

@npfionna She's 15, which is a young adult with her own mind, desires, wishes and dreams. Treat your teen like a preteen and in 10 years you're going to have an adult child who resents you.

@elenamaria_9 He wears his safety belt, or he doesn't drive your car ever. He pays the increase in the cost of insurance whether he's driving or not. If your location is served by a school bus, he rides the bus now. Or buy him a bicycle.

@monae Ask the therapist how you should handle the situation and follow that advice.

@caterpillar5 Get her a babysitter, even if she's past the age of a babysitter. Then invite your own friend to go, and go with your friend. Let your daughter stew on that.

@monae You control whether he plays lacrosse. Set consequences. If sitting at home doing nothing except staring at a wall is preferable for him to participating in school and playing lacrosse, oh well. No phone. No TV. No Internet. No going out. No having anyone over. Yes, I might consider...

@monae Does he play lacrosse on a high school team? Athletic leagues in my state typically require a student athlete to maintain a 2.0 GPA (C grades) or they cannot participate in school sports. This is true even for IEP students because education comes first. I suggest looking for parenting...

@misshendry Maybe he wants to play Mumblety-peg.

@chrisard Maybe stick to putting credit on an Amazon account, which you can closely monitor.

@chrisard Why does your 13-year-old have access to a credit card? And why don't you have push notifications enabled to tell you when the card is used?

@msbelle I mean, your daughter seems to be using two forms of birth control. Be happy she's responsible.