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@kitsoni I agree; I moved to a different country this year and most of the babies and kids here sleep in til 8:30/9am. And go to bed later. From my experience it takes a few days or weeks for them to adjust to the later schedule, so for a while they continue to wake early (or earlier!) despite...

@dvz I understand this sentiment. My stepdad is an only child and is currently going through this with his elderly mother. She’s in a nursing home 30 minutes drive away, and he visits her every day, takes her on all outings and to appointments, is doing all the preparations for selling her...

@benromana The Love to Dream 50/50 is what we used to transition out of swaddles and it functions as a sleep sack but is still snug around their body. It’s like a 2 in 1 swaddle/sleep sack where you just unzip the arms. We also still wrapped our LO’s lower half so he felt that tightness from...

@gordon63 I understand everything you’ve said until the last paragraph. Your husband is just wrong about that and there is a lot of hyperbole. It’s not 2 extra years of a tough life. It’s the next 18-20 years having a tougher life. I chose to have the second child and I’m happy with my decision...

@sociology Honestly, I’m going to say no because of global overpopulation. We all have to do our part. Even if you live a fairy low-impact life now, your 4 kids will grow up and start new families of their own; there’ll be 4 more people driving cars, 4 houses, 4 entire families eating meat and...

@stefana ^ This is a really well thought-out and diplomatic response! I totally agree. It would help to understand her situation a little better, and for her to understand yours. She might be working night shifts at a hospital and need to sleep during the day. Or like the poster above me said...

@qbanmom7070 Agree with everything here! Mine are 4 years apart

@ccmrockman You should also check out r/shouldihaveanother if you haven’t already!

@katrina2017 There’s also r/shouldihaveanother for people on the fence :)

I've heard so many different opinions about this. Some say having a second is only 1.5 times the work, some say it is around twice the work, and others say it is up to 5 times the work!! Obviously this is a matter of opinion, but I suspect there are also other factors at play, including the...

@patrick702 Same here. Although now that we have done it on hard mode, perhaps the next one would seem easier and we’d be much more confident. We were so totally blindsided by our difficult baby last time. Also personally I think we’ve paid our dues and deserve an easy one next time 😆 ahh if...

@patrick702 That is such a great idea! Thanks so much for sharing. We are sort of in the process of doing this- my husband (who is the one more on the fence than me) decided that before deciding “if” we needed to decide “when” so that we could actually get a clearer picture of what life would...

@syrak Totally understand that everyone’s experiences are different- my point is just that I think whether kids get along or not is more to do with personality and family dynamics rather than the age gap. Some kids with very small age gaps also don’t get along at all, some with big age gaps do...

@syrak Hey my older brother is nearly 6 years older than me. Firstly, we always did and still do get along great! But also, while he did start having kids long before me, his youngest (he has 3 kids) and my oldest are exactly the same age. They’re even in the same class at preschool and are best...

@loumay I have exactly a 4 year age gap. I’ve really liked it so far. Age 3 was rough for us so I’m glad to not have had a newborn to deal with as well. Age 4 has been a huge change in my kid’s demeanour, independence, maturity, ability to self regulate etc. So with that, the thing I have both...

@despet93 I agree with this too, although I live in Australia where things are a bit different from the US. For one, we have a great public health and public school system so there aren't many costs associated with that. The main expenses are daycare (which isn't a problem if a parent can stay...

@momof452 It should be a consideration but not the only consideration. What other reasons do you have to have another child? What reasons do you not want another? Once a child is at school I think they will be surrounded by other kids all day and they can do extra curricular activities too. So...

@tantman This is actually what the "science" says! That either a

@cesar07 There is no right or wrong answer here. Whatever you decide is the right choice for you guys at this time. If you choose to terminate you can still conceive at a later time. A majority of abortions are from people who already have a child or children and are not in a place in their...

@missaqua From the sounds of it I really don’t think you should have another. Have you read the r/oneanddone subreddit? If not I highly recommend you check it out. So many wonderful things about being a family of 3!! Regarding your specific concerns, unless you are planning to homeschool I...