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@waterflow Fingers crossed for the new meds, sounds like they might be really helpful for you. I know there's a lot of bad press about medicating children, but sometimes it really fixes a biological issue and can relieve a lot of real problems. Hope things keep getting better!

@waterflow I have a bit more time to write this morning. What I was thinking for the diagram was on the first row you have "Baby's body looks like:" and then you have two choices: "Boy", "Girl" and then on the next row you have "When you grow up maybe you feel like "Boy", "Girl", "Both boy and...

@waterflow Awe, I feel this so much! How heartbreaking for such a young person to have to manage all that and to be able to recognize relief like that. She's lucky to have so much support.

@waterflow I was wondering if you guys run into this pattern with your niece. That when you introduce a new idea it's initially met with a lot of resistance but if you make good argument but don't engage in the resistance and expect agreement then the arguments sink in over time? I work very...

@011235813 Agreed. I really enjoyed this thread, I hope it encourages more open conversation.

@sharon1965 This is a great point about the facts. I think the way OP put all the definitions of different identities in her points also supports this ideas. There are more categories than niece thought, but there are still different categories which is helpful for giving the concept stability...

@011235813 I love this in the context of the original post. Personally I would love to see us discuss this more on here: the nuances of application. It's the part I love. I often don't chime in when I have something to contribute on this topic for three reasons. First, I find in order to he...

@wadebayo30 Wow, thanks for sharing. It would be fascinating to understand why those views are there in the first place.

@wadebayo30 Interesting. This may be field-dependant. I work in engineering. It's research, but very, very applied. That could be why. Research involving human beings is much more complex so I get it's different.

@wadebayo30 I wanted to pick up on your point about not being involved in policy making. In my organization (PhD also), I'm promoted based on my ability to impact the real world with my research, not just publish papers. While I never have the last word on policy, I write clauses that policy...

@dennisbon One thing to try is to engage your kiddo in problem solving. It forces you to articulate what boundaries you feel are being stretched and gets them thinking about which aspects of the passion they care most about. Then maybe there's a way to work it that meets all the wants/needs at...

@dennisbon I absolutely prioritize good family groove and enough down time before activities. We are kind of homebodies so I know our limit is lower than a lot of families. I also know we spend a lot more time as a family as a result and it's great. My husband and I also prioritize exercise...

@rockhopper72 I have a lot of respect for @godwithpeter's moderation. I've been here since she started this sub and although the rules sound a bit harsh, she just doesn't want people getting harassed for no reason. She's not removing legitimate comments (my experience). Re convincing them...

@rockhopper72 So I had another look at your article because I really wanted to comment on this. I'm a scientist too (physical sciences, not psychology or anything remotely related to parenting) and I LOVE interpretation and application of science. Frankly, I thought your article was excellent...

@alvaror I was going to suggest this. We have a mattress under our bed and my younger child used it from time to time over the years. It did not become a problem of her being there all the time. It gave everyone what they needed.

@waterflow This is awesome. Thanks for sharing.

@notloveisnotjesus Personally I think you have a good framework here. I would suggest telling your kiddo you want them to be part of figuring out the boundaries. Just talk it through, before during and after and it will evolve perfectly how it needs to. A daily plan at first might be...

@snaptikappmefr I'm so sorry for your loss, that's awful. To help your daughter process the likelihood of other people dying, I suggest getting an anatomy book and talking about body systems and what it takes to live and die. When my oldest had anxiety about death, this helped him understand...

@wyatt1525 And I bet if you start using some of the space they will recognize the space you are using as living space which will reduce the chance of them using it to go. As long as they still have a place to go.

@idontknow Is this a normal occurrence, like every week? To me the at-home parent is entitled to, when the travelling spouse is home: - A chance to work late or extra some days if desired with house/kiddos handled - A chance to socialize with other adults, assuming the travelling parent gets...