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@daman777 To add a different perspective, it was not enough wake time for either of my kids at that age. Average total sleep at this age is around 12-14 hours, and a 3/3/4 schedule asks for 14 hours. So it's actually a lot of sleep; maybe very high sleep needs babies need more, but it's not...

@aaronq10 Seattle isn't super-formal, so I think your plans sound fine - but if it's raining those white Reeboks might get a little dingy if you're walking outside a lot. I used to live in Seattle and now live in Portland (so, pretty similar weather) and wear mostly dark shoes/boots if I'm...

@paparazi257 Flat floor mat, think a crib mattress but on the floor. ETA: Not that I have anything against cribs (we used one at home!) but this place's philosophy was zero containment devices.

@clay9000 My son's infant room didn't even HAVE cribs; I would not be okay with a place that kept babies in a crib while awake for long periods of time. Is the room full of toddlers or something? That is strange.

@spiritlead2013 I had my second at 40 (my husband was 45); my kids have a 3.5 year age gap. We both work full-time M-F, and have no family support locally or anything like that. For me at least, going to two kids was HARD AF. I had the challenging kid first so I can't speak to that part of your...

@loumay Mine have a 3.5 year age gap. I'm one of four kids myself, and most of us had four-year age gaps. Personally, I don't think there's a ton of difference between ages 3 & 4 except potentially for potty trained status (much more likely to have successfully implemented it by age 4 as opposed...

@kaiti I was one of four kids, and there was no scenario in which both of my parents were ever showing up at an activity! Not possible. Once I was old enough, I was usually driving a younger sibling to one of their activities. And as a kid I don't remember caring that only one parent was around...

@kaiti We have evening activities for our kids most nights during the week so I hear you, though (right now) all of them are over by 6:30 at the latest. If there was something from 6-7, we'd grab take-out on the way home or have frozen dinners from Trader Joe's or Costco ready to heat up as soon...

@lostsoul_ My son's old daycare had this happen a lot, beginning with Covid hitting. It was and is very challenging to find sufficient staff at many centers, which means they either have to restrict the number of kids who come in or else fully shut down the room because of ratios. I had to move...

@chrissygerzen We have two and it is super-stressful for many reasons, the main ones being lack of any family support so it's all on us. At least IME going from one kid to two didn't double the stress; it exponentially magnified it. We have also done different pick-ups/drop-offs for going on...

@donaldspede Re childcare, check and see if your state has any kind of childcare assistance (call 211 as a start). Depending on how parenting goes for you and your mental health, you might look into caring for an additional child if the current job you have doesn't pay enough for your own...

@muya To your last sentence, there are still many days where I wish I'd stopped at one. Those days are fewer and farther between than they used to be, but they still exist. But, the thing you and I did with our 3yos was parent (unplanned) through Covid. And I'm here to say that my hard kid was...

@katrina2017 She (my first) was fun at age 2, and life was starting to feel better and more liveable to the point that I could imagine doing it all again. It also felt like having a kid had exploded my life beyond recognition anyway, so in a sense the cost of just one felt like a lot - like...

@flowernbloom Babies are kind of awful; anyone who says they are easy is either one of those people who magically loves babies and/or has/had an easy baby. Solidarity! I don't think it actually gets better until they're toddlers, but the good news is that - on the sleep front - once they're 4+...

@leah_talbot I had severe PPD for two solid years after my first, and my kids have a 3.5 year age gap. (Ended up with severe PPD after the second too, but so it goes.) Anyway, I like that age gap! I would have waited a little longer even, but I had my second at 40 as it was. We did have one year...

@rainbow42 I have two, and from that lens would say there are tons of positives to being OAD. But I agree, you don't need to decide now. When I look at our friends who stopped at one kid, their lives are vastly less complicated (especially in the context of two parents who're together), because...