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@akags I basically agree with everything you said. I didn’t take it that he’s trying to make her cut her mother out of her life since she still comes to visit and help with the dog. I also think there doesn’t seem to be enough reason for her mother not to help with the baby; I just disagree with...

@sam77 I disagree with some other comments saying that your husband shouldn’t get a say on caregivers for your child. I definitely think he should have input on how his children are cared for. However, it does seem like some of his expectations are a bit extreme. I assume your mother didn’t...

@fromissouri It probably starts with providing a competitive wage for childcare workers, no?

@seekertruth72 What methods did you use to try to teach them in the past? Maybe we could try to troubleshoot where things went wrong.

@monchito Yeah, I guess we will have to disagree. I don’t interpret that comment as shaming at all. From my POV it’s just speculating about what choices are or are not available to people at various income levels without commenting or making a judgment on the actual decision.

@monchito I believe I’ve read all of the comments. I didn’t see anything like your paraphrase. I saw people debating about how common it may or may not be to make a choice between using daycare or not—is that what you are referring to? Maybe you can link it? I don’t think the article should be...

@worshiper32 She goes to two half-day preschools; the one on M/W is Chinese (partial) immersion. I don’t think Spanish is discouraged by any of her teachers, but maybe she is adapting some language her teacher uses regarding switching between English and Chinese. At the time I enrolled her, her...

@monchito I’ve only seen it used to inform, not shame anyone. 🤷🏻‍♀️

@ptashman I agree about not forcing her and making it negative. We try to let her choose which is part of the reason she is getting less Spanish with things because she prefers English right now. It’s been difficult trying to balance maximizing exposure and practice with giving her autonomy...

@girlperson Isn’t one of the points of this sub to provide a forum for people to be able to share information without being shutdown on the basis of how the data makes people feel?

@littlefeather Yeah, I think being different could be part of it, and also I think English just comes more easily and quickly for her now so she doesn’t want the difficulty of switching to Spanish.

@angelbo737 Thanks for the recommendations—I will look into those books.

@relle25 Thanks. She has a bit of a stubborn temperament in general (which she gets from both of her parents ☺️), so I think that’s definitely part of it as well.

@drobe008 I don’t think I’ve ever seen transparent post-it notes—that could be great for a lot of our books. I will definitely look for some. Thank you.

@chux7 It could be that he needs to take over a bit more of the stressful parenting elements that you are currently leading on to balance things.

@hondahunter I’m in a very similar position. I’m about 35 weeks pregnant, and my first recently turned 2. I put her into some classes (a dance class and 4 hours a week of preschool), but your little one might a bit too young; I had to look around for some that started at 2. At home I usually...

@deaconbling It’s hard because a lot of her favorite books are in English. We’ve considered making our own translations so he can read them in Spanish, but we haven’t prioritized it enough to take the time to do it yet. I will try to push it higher on the priority list.

@mandy123 You’re welcome. I think it’s an interesting and complex subject. A lot of people understandably get defensive about it, but I try to stay open to questioning assumptions. I think truth can stand up to some healthy scrutiny, so I don’t mind the discussion.

@toolenduso Why does he work 70 hours? That’s a lot. My husband works from home, but he only works 30-40 hours a week. So, my first recommendation would be trying to see if he can have more boundaries around his personal time and cut back the outside work hours. My husband chooses a time every...

@kufe My husband is hesitant to be too strict with the language because he has a lot of examples with friends and family where that kind of approach has backfired. But now that our daughter isn’t speaking much Spanish at all he’s reconsidering a bit. There doesn’t seem to be a clear consensus...