@rae29 I don't waste food because food is in a slightly different shape than child wants. He can eat it or not but that's what lunch is.
I do try to ask child before I cut up whatever or ask what they want on it or a reasonable requests. But when I cut off the bruised banana so the remaining...
@aurelia7 Self help skills. Get a lunchbox and water bottle child can open themselves/work on getting child to be able to open them. Unzip backpack, put on their own shoes, jacket. Pull pants down independently and get on the toilet on their own.