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@kevin__huang I've definitely been tempted to do this ha, but I also have so many friends from divorced homes that grew up hating when their parents did this. My parents weren't divorced, and even they would do this sometimes, and I don't think it really works. BUT if someone is acting...

@canick This is definitely something to consider. I work as a contract employee most of the time, so it might not be an option, but my union may have something like this. I've tried to get her to reattend mediation re: changing holiday plans, avoiding agreement, etc, but she's refusing. Do you...

@brittneylovee3 Thanks, great advice. I myself went to a counselor that suggested I do this, and I have encouraged them to ask these questions of their mom. Unfortunately their mom is hypertensive to anything that she might take as criticism, even from a child, and I worry that I might be...

@kay911 Yes absolutely, luckily I convinced her to start using ofw last year and it’s been a godsend. It’s also a lot easier to track the more erratic and delusional behavior when she’s breaking court orders left and right.

@thinrin In a normal situation I would absolutely agree with you, but their mom is more on the emotionally abusive side and I don’t feel that she would be receptive to any discussion. In the past when I’ve tried to do just this, she then throws it back at me and tells me I’m being manipulative...

@jlamb1 Thanks! This is the route I usually take. Just sort of staying neutral and loving, while trying to wait it out until they're older and understand it more.

@pattyketty True, she’s very similar to me as a kid, and I worry so much that she’ll end up in that kind of relationship when she grows up. I don’t want her to learn to just be “the peacemaker” for her mom’s sake and to spare her trouble. Trying my best to teach her that it’s ok to say no, it’s...

@hocachepkoi This is great advice, thank you. My daughter is super smart, super kind, and endlessly curious she definitely has the ability to think for her self, luckily. For her own sake that will be good in the long run. I know that when I try to help her express emotions I tend to get the...

@earthly0upe Oh I'm sure she does notice it, she just seems less emotionally effected by it. For her, the divorce happened at a much younger age, so I'm sure part of it is she's just used to it being this way.

@jlamb1 She's 9. My 7 year old doesn't care about any of it at all. My 9 year old is very smart and observant.

@khohanguc Oh I didn’t mean to say it was a problem to have adhd & tourrettes, but the other parent absolutely believes they are personal flaws and uses them as weapons against me constantly. I know that it’s only a matter of time before she does it to my girls. What sucks is she’s an elementary...

@haley009 Thanks, great advice. I would love for them to go to therapy. Unfortunately, their mom has stated multiple times that I am the crazy one, diagnosed me with everything under the sun, and often uses it as a weapon. She's even stated that, "They need therapy because of you!" to me...

@spookydawg77 This is great advice, thank you!

Expanding on the title. I'm co-parenting with someone who is controlling, manipulative, and hellbent on 'winning' at all costs. What does she want to win? I have no idea. I wish there we're awards for coparenting, but there are not. Anyway, It's starting to become so noticeable that my oldest...