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@sam77 Ok, then he needs to hire a babysitter for you.

@ztalbott It really depends on the person. I also know two child families that are super close. In my extended family there’s a three child family. The oldest doesn’t talk to the middle, and moved away to country A. and the middle and youngest do talk, but they have a huge age gap so the...

@lovechrist4eva This. It’s called skin in the game. Whenever my partner comes up with a new rule or ideal that might fall more on me, such as “hon I think we should send Christmas cards every year” I ask him, more or less, how will he help, or what will he take off my plate to make that...

@rightway2truth Second this. We live in a HCOL city, one of the most expensive in the world and make about $140k USD with two kids with just my husband working, and we are fine. Not swimming in cash, but we have money left every month.

@skylynne Damn, as someone who wants 3, this gave me something to think about. I knew it would be a logistical challenge but you made me realize how much. Thanks.

@mightynameofjesus I would wait until you finish your training and not more, since you’re in Germany. Prenatal care, birth and parental leave are sponsored by the state. Take as much leave as you can. Try to have all the kids you Want. You can start a career in your late 20s also. My former...

@samiwhitie I got pregnant with my first child in Germany (but didn’t give birth there) but yeah it’s amazing. I think the state will obligate the company to hold your job for up to 3 years, with a salary that is a percentage of your usual salary. (The state compensates the company for your...

@kca741979 Germany has very good parental support including childcare and parental leave. One of my colleagues was studying, doing an internship while raising two young toddlers as a single dad. I’m not saying he has it easy, but in Germany it’s easier than the vast majority of places.

@daisy83 Yes, although I did all the night wakings until we decided to night wean my 9 mo. Now he sleeps in her room and deals with all of her wakings, since we don’t want her to feed to sleep and that’s the only way she’ll sleep for me.