@gavenv Please see the research by Dr. Daniel Siegel. Read his books, "the whole brain child", "the yes brain" and "no drama discipline."
Here is a brief summary PDF of his research based parenting approach for a cliff notes"...
@ginny16 Same, I'm thinking of all the things I need to do now, schedule physical therapy, get Epson salt to soak feet, nap as much as possible now since sleep sounds horrible further out.....the list goes on