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@jamesmason10 Compromise is meeting someone in the middle on wants and preferences. Attempting to change who someone fundamentally is, isn’t compromise.

@jamesmason10 You may believe that you’re entitled to emotional intimacy but a lot of people - especially guys - are not wired for it, and didn’t grow up being comfortable with emotional intimacy. If one wants emotional intimacy with their partner, and he’s not naturally wired that way, then...

@jamesmason10 What empathy has he failed to show, exactly? OP wants someone “who dotes on her, asks her about her day, talks through tough stuff.” That has nothing to do with empathy, she’s asking for emotional intimacy. She wants a BFF modeled on relationships with other women, or on what she...

@cristy I appreciate that you’re about personal growth, OP. Growth requires going outside one’s comfort zone and unsurprisingly, it’s not a universal goal. It’s possible that your husband does not care two hoots about growth. He’s not unique, that’s true of most people, and that’s why they stay...

@cristy FWIW I’ve been married nearly 30 years, both of us had C-level jobs, and we have a profoundly disabled child. My whole life has gone against the grain, as it were, so I’ve learned to pay attention to what’s real and what paths lead to happiness. OP, you’re a truth seeker. You’ll find...

@cristy Being “emotionally reserved” and expressing affection through acts of service is a personality type - not a failing to be fixed. Your husband seems to be falling short of some arbitrary standard that you have in your mind, and you seem to be having trouble accepting him for who he is...