Search results

Thank you all for the amazing feedback, support and guidance. For the last week I have tried my absolute hardest to hold really clear, firm boundaries, have excellent communication, enough connection, a very consistent schedule, minimal screen time and sugar, plenty of balanced meals and...

@alexis_gustavoc That’s a good point and he actually can be worse with others as far as his meanness goes😅 he’s only really nice to me and grandpa (not even dad lol) I have been told he doesn’t cry as much with others as he does with me, understandably since I’m his safe space. But we’ve had...

@topazio Thank you🙏 I think apologizing after losing our temper is a really important and valuable thing to do and teach them.

@lmkuhn76 Yes I’ve definitely lost my cool and yelled at him a handful of times. I quickly learned each time it’s not the right method for him. I can remember exactly the last time I yelled at him which was about 7 weeks ago I said “NO! I told you 3 times, get your shoes on NOW. We have to leave...

@anonymous00000001 Thank you so much. I’m filled with tears because I started wondering if maybe I really am a monster for thinking this way about my child. I know I probably should still reframe my mind to meet him with more kindness but it’s hard to do right now and part of me doesn’t know how...

@katrina2017 I am not sure what to tell you. Maybe because you didn’t experience it yourself you don’t understand. But I’m at a loss with how to process the trauma I went through in the first year with your way of thinking.

@katrina2017 Did you read what “I” said? It was a comment multiple people made jokingly. Anyone who met him couldn’t believe his age. I also agree I could benefit from shifting my perspective, I don’t want to continue to feel jealous of people who have easier children and easier lives when mine...

@katrina2017 I’m sorry but I guess we just agree to disagree because I personally don’t believe someone needs to be able to take responsibility to be able cause trauma to someone. I would never tell him this just as I never have my own parents due to the hurt and pain that would cause the...

@katrina2017 Sorry you didn’t like my language but it’s the truth. I was referring to the first year with him. I actually do have pretty significant PTSD from it. I had extremely severe PPD/PPA and nearly attempted suicide a few times. As a newborn he never slept, EVER. He never ever slept. Had...

@geraldinnechan5117 I feel you so deeply. I also have PTSD from my childhood, the first year of his life and from recently moving abroad. My poor nervous system is a mess. He couldn’t handle school (he had after school restraint collapse really severely and his behavior and tantrums were almost...

@johnwilliams87 Wow, I am so thankful you chose to share this with me. You have no idea how much hope and comfort this has given me. She sounds so much like my son. The intelligence alone is a lonely road because of course it’s hard to talk about with others since we will obviously come off the...

@9ikanews Since my son is bilingual, I tell him “I’m sorry I don’t speak that language” when he cries and whines like that. I’m the English speaker so I tell him he can use his “nice words in English with me” or I just say “ask me nicely please” it sometimes works, sometimes not. If he’s having...

@joakdailey I’m trying to sort through the advice here because some comments think he’s getting too much power/choices and some don’t think I’m giving him enough choices or letting things go enough. I feel like I can’t agree with that part about them not really wanting to be in charge. My son...

@misterfred I LOVE your advice. It’s spot on. This method works really well with him too. He always resists everything at first if it wasn’t his idea. Even just going to the grocery store or doing something fun. We also went to get bagels yesterday and he resisted at first😂 even in the shop he...

@mechchicken I don’t agree at all. Because I left out the context that on a daily basis, I give him loads and loads of choices and autonomy. He always helps me with everything and I let him do pretty much everything I would do. Since he was a young baby I’ve always let him help me and do...

@thanvi I guess this is one of those things where I can’t find the line between it being him bossing me or me giving him autonomy. Like choosing my battles here. He has such an extremely strong drive to do everything himself since a young age. I’ve always let him do everything. And if I were to...

@pick Thank you friend❤️all the kindness is really gluing back together some of the pieces of my shattered spirits.

@samkruger This is exactly what I’ve struggled with since he was born. I also noticed from speaking with friends the relativity mindset we have regarding our own experiences with children and motherhood. Because motherhood (parenthood) IS hard in general. But my friend will complain about how...

@iamthankful Walking on eggshells to avoid tantrums - I feel this. I think I’m doing it more than I realize. We are working on the nice voice but I need to be more consistent.

@ezek_3626 To clarify, you just speak the words for them out of context to model right?