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@prayingp The first thing that pops into my mind: I have worked in healthcare and I have treated a lot of STDs, so i admit I am biased. But I have seen lots of teens living at home get them. I have seen lots living on a campus in the states get them. So it’s hard to know for sure, and although...

@rafalle777 Hmmm, our local shops are not open until 1 am, so that would be a “let’s talk about respect for others and loitering” but if he had already moved to a friend’s house — watching a movie, gaming, at 1 am. I would not care. However, my kids care about their grades & their activities...

@prayingp I would do exactly what you did and not bring him home. A couple of things — you are the safest person, so he will unload everything on you at a time of crisis, which in one 6 hour session may sound worse than it is. He’s still a teen with intense vacillating emotions, you listened...

@rafalle777 What is he doing? Our kids never have a set curfew. We ask them: what are you doing? Where will you be? What time do you want to come home? And then please keep in touch.

@cal My teens have to complete drivers Ed. My teens have to drive with me as a passenger (or their dad) for 75 hours. My teens complete 20 hours of driving with an insurance monitoring app. My teens must show respect, responsibility, and good judgements in our home & school to have access to...

@ajhnh I guess it would depend on the child, but in general, I do not think I would allow anything like this until they were like seniors, and heading off to college anyway. Fifteen seems young to me. I have read more and more social media posts about this; I think it is sort of a side effect...

@jen1458 That’s good. I am not trying to be oppositional but where we live … My kids would not be screened for sleep apnea or sleep disorders, on routine well-visits or a check-up for other chronic condition, as it’s just not that common. But in my opinion, even tired teens should “wake up...

@jen1458 What does the pediatrician say? Teens being tired — sure. Especially when they are growing — yes! But “waking up after 9 hours of sleep & still tired” — I would want to rule out sleep apnea, other sleep disorders, and medical problems.

@tyler234 You have gotten great advice. But I just want to reiterate, this is not a strong willed teen. This is a teen that is mentally unwell, and needs help yesterday. You need family and individual help with a good psychotherapist.

@scottwilson I could understand how that would be frustrating. I am fortunate that my kids seem to regulate their need to eat fairly well (or at least so far, my youngest is only 10). But our family culture may be a bit different than yours: I married into an Italian family and they very much...

@scottwilson I provide nightly dinners, otherwise all 3 of my children (16M, 14M, 10F) feed themselves based on the food available. I do not really have problems with them getting hangry or being mean to me. But, no, there food choices are not always the healthiest (5 bowls of cereal, 6...

@mellowesile I feel these are two different issues. Going to school does not address sexuality and inappropriate online behavior. Nor does not going to school cause such behavior. I personally would address the Snapchat thing with her directly, discuss sexuality, online safety, dating...

@margrethe I get it, I think, it sucks to be with an emotionally neglectful partner. Does he have any redeeming qualities? I mean if you are in therapy, they probably are better equipped to answer your questions & provide guidance? I am in a relationship with a 80/20 type household/childcare...

@carlosbroch I echo others. Have him evaluated for ADHD, even if he does not have it — read “smart but scattered Teens” and do those exercises with him, as it addresses challenges in executive functioning, which whether your sons are bad enough or not for a formal diagnosis, he definitely us...

@osvaldo Congrats on your new job…I feel this…after reading your story, i have reflected upon mine… With my first pregnancy, I had 72 hours of irregular contractions, which as a ftm, since they were so irregular & my due date was over 2 weeks away, I thought they were Braxton Hicks. By the 48...

@proangel I know! It is so hard to say good-bye to the person they used to be, and accept the completely different person they are now in the moment. I have struggled with it since toddlerhood, and teen years are just as hard, if not a bit worse, because it marks the start of their path to leave...

@giobob What does your therapist say? What does your lawyer say? Do you have one that specializes in these type of issues? Anyway, I am so sorry! This sounds devastating & exhausting. I have a sibling that was in a similar situation and their child was in a motor vehicle accident and sustained...

@convictionofgod I can only half-way relate, maybe it is the age? My 16-year-old is a bit more picky than ever, BUT what I cannot relate to, the gripefest. Nope, nope, nope. My husband would shut that down so fast, totally not OK on our home. Our rule: Any meal that someone has cooked for you...

@thedevilaintthatbad I am sorry. That has to be insanely stressful. Unfortunately, the time to let him make his own mistakes is now, as all you can do is listen to him if he talks to you, trying to show unconditional love & connection, so perhaps when the opportunity arises to offer advice on a...

@sandgroper101 My perspective is different, as I have a high achiever. And I also have a kid with learning disabilities - so his grades suck sometimes because he lacks the ability, but even so, we work with him in motivation: Things that I would suggest: 1) sit down with him every evening...