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@glo22inc I agree that current behavior is very bad. With that in mind, a good father in your kids life is statistically like giving them a super power. If he's a bad father on top of a philandering asshole, then throw him in the lake of fire.

@alvinc Well the kids are 8 and 5. The guy was okay for some number of years?

@alvinc Well in the US we have 26% of kids in single parent households, and it's 3-4% in China and India. Do you want me to tell you all the ill effects as well?

@manicmania This is because statistically, single father homes don't have the negative outcomes for the children. It's not an emotional thing. This particular father might be a train wreck into a dumpster fire. I only asked OP if he was a good father. If so, then reconciliation for the sake...

@alvinc Actually, what I asked OP was if he was a good father. If he's not a good father, then I would never suggest reconciliation.

@heartfullofchrist Oh it would almost certainly be better for the kids of reconciliation was possible. Even his part-time accessibility would improve this situation most likely. Just from a babysitting perspective.

@heartfullofchrist Oh I agree that his current behavior is bad. However, statistically single mother homes have much higher negative outcomes for the children. OP is likely the only person that could reconcile this. Therapy, counseling, separate wings of the house... Some other arrangement is...

@heartfullofchrist It matters because there's unlikely to be a better father available. A good father is valuable to children's lives. Just like a good mother. However, if he's a trash father and was a major factor in the separating, then I'd say good riddance. I'm a children first advocate.

@techyinaz Was he a good father before you broke up?