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@krafterkaren That's the right program but I honestly just used the website/YouTube videos/podcasts where the author was interviewed. I've heard the book is good but I haven't read it.

@chriver There's no way that medication would be a first line option for any 4yo, but yes it absolutely can be an option and in some cases it's warranted. Once a child has been assessed, parent training to check that the parenting tools are effective and environmental safeguards are still not...

@acuriousgirl That is because coregulation is overused as a buzzword online, and most people don't actually understand the whole context of it, which is about using your own lower arousal level (you used the term escalation, which I used in my other comment but the actual term is arousal) to...

@londonleah My understanding of this finding is that it was pretty heavily funded by pacifier manufacturers. It could also be that what you're essentially doing is mimicking the biological function of nursing throughout sleep (though, obviously, since nursing through sleep is associated with...

@acuriousgirl Well firstly I would be wary of using the term "gentle parenting" as a descriptor because as far as I can tell, it is not a term with a widely agreed-upon definition (even though a lot of people are very attached to their specific definition and assume that everyone shares it -...

@dustinx I like the How To Talk app for this reason - it has a button to hit which says "Help!! I've tried everything and none of it is working!"

@ginger18 Be careful, the book Siblings Without Rivalry (how to talk authors) specifically warns against setting siblings in competition with each other, even for harmless things like getting dressed, going upstairs. Their twist on the technique (because kids of this age LOVE competition) is to...

@acuriousgirl Happy to chat more/answer questions because it was a total gamechanger for me - I have ADHD and I really struggled with my own emotional regulation until I started learning about this stuff. I do think a lot of advice is written with the assumption that everyone has a totally...

@acuriousgirl The goal isn't that she will be able to deescalate instantly at 3.5. It's OK if it takes her a while, and if talking/reflecting isn't helping, then it's not helping. Children learn self-regulation by having many, many, many experiences where they experience an overwhelming emotion...

@galaxyquxxn Would add context to the other poster - it's very common in the US and not so much in other parts of the world. On the internet it has a bad reputation because some adult autistic people have negative experiences of it as children. It has historically been used in some harmful ways...

@joanfiz Well presumably you would have gone back in at some point if she didn't, which is why it isn't neglect. (I'm confused as to why you're replying to me though)

@rumiakthar I don't think leaving a baby to cry for 5 min intervals can be considered neglect any time. Putting them in a room and closing the door and not coming back, neglect day or night. I don't like extinction as a method, I would not do it, but you can't just call any parenting technique...

@dedebeam Not really a fair take, I don't think. There are plenty of things that parents do that children aren't really ready for. Neglect is a HUGE jump. The idea that sleep training causes learned helplessness is hugely flawed and seems to be based on the Romanian orphanage studies, where the...

@brione Ah OK fair enough. I have enough parenting books I want to read so I probably won't read that one, but I'll stop equating it to the CC!

@joshdons I am so glad that you pointed out the issues because they annoy me too much to take the book seriously XD In all seriousness though, I haven't read it myself, but what I have read of it, it sounds very similar to Jean Liedloff's The Continuum Concept which was written in the 1970s and...

@diabolusaeternitas How To Talk and Doctor Becky are much more practical resources on non-punitive parenting or positive parenting.

@wolfe17 Looks like she has pulled a lot of the older ones from the free to view level.

@hedowns Yes, this. You can't just produce more of one type of sperm. Some genetic defects are sex-linked and only affect one chromosome. The ones that we know about tend to be the survivable ones - it's likely there are others that we don't know about because they cause failed...

@tmorey7788 Never needed it while bedsharing and it would bother me, so I didn't :)

@allfree15 I think it takes longer than that. I did find that I wasn't very good at being consistent with things like ssshing and patting because it was just adding in more things for me to do, but stuff like establishing a set place and time and position etc for the bedtime feed was helpful...