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@aegisheart My eldest has an IQ of 122, which is borderline gifted (130 is considered gifted, but 120+ generally get put into gifted programs at schools, whatever that means - I don't live in the US). My second kid is noticeably smart as well but we haven't had any testing done for him. Weirdly...

@genxjeff It comes from social media, just ignore them and maybe cast a little bit extra scepticism over anything they tell you haha

@nas22345 Actually that makes a lot of sense. I hadn't thought of it in terms of PDA before. I had thought about an overlap between PDA and ODD, but it could all be different interpretations of stress behaviour / different presentations associated with certain patterns of dysregulation.

@nas22345 OT can probably help, but if you haven't come across the concept of stress behaviour, I would read one of these first: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Reg-Child-Stress-Successfully-Engage-ebook/dp/B017SCQL8M/...

@acuriousgirl CPS as described by Ross Greene is extremely difficult to do with a 3.5yo. You can use aspects of it for sure, the ideas that I think are helpful for all situations are: Considering situations which are likely to trigger "explosive" behaviour and looking for patterns, because...

@ebveloz So I liked this podcast, which interviewed a researcher which basically asked this same thing: What happens to babies who aren't sleep trained or for whom sleep training doesn't work...

@continualseeker Interesting, I took that as a tongue in cheek comment (he says it in the course, doesn't he? Maybe it's worded differently). I thought what he was saying there is that none of this is clear cut, we are raising humans not programming robots, you cannot put in an easy standard...

@cajaybears Have you read any of the How To Talk books? Those are basically my bible of parenting but especially at this age. If you are having trouble generally being in the "leader role" I found Dr. Becky and Janet Lansbury both good resources for helping me find my confident leader inside ;)

@cajaybears I truly do not mean this as a criticism, but I also used to go on my phone while waiting for my toddler to be ready to do things, and someone gently pointed out to me that this can make it drag on further, (I forget the exact reasoning now, but something to do with whether they have...

@smartgeek Yes! I think it can be quite hyper-specific as well sometimes. Like I have noticed that my kids pick up extremely quickly on rules like "No whining about TV or there won't be any TV" whereas if I am having a very bad ADHD day and give in to whining, then they are MUCH more likely to...

@acuriousgirl I don't think I'd be able to use much in the first list when my kid is super dysregulated. I do more waiting it out and being the calmer presence. You might like The Occuplaytional Therapist, they post some useful examples and interesting content in general IMO.

@acuriousgirl OK so coregulation in the moment. First of all, keep everyone safe, so if I need to protect other people/resources from damage then I would remove the child to another area. Triggering oxytocin > Think anything you'd do to provide physical comfort. NB, some of these may feel...

@crescenta In that context a lot of the backlash makes more sense. I'm sorry you weren't listened to. It seems different to me today. But maybe my annoyance should be directed at doctors prescribing irresponsibly, rather than people pointing out what happened.

@crescenta I feel like I've had this convo on here before. I don't know if you are the same person or if it was common to give high doses to kids and additionally not listen to the feedback from the kids themselves 30 years ago (not unlikely, I guess) but it is not the experience I have had of...

@madea1962 I don't want to cast shade on someone's parenting, but if you are using fruit pouches to get to sleep, I would strongly recommend 1, brushing/wiping the teeth asap once the baby is asleep, and 2, weaning from these ASAP, because the acid and sugar on the teeth immediately before...

@priya12 It's interesting because having read through a lot of the other comments, most of them are suggesting things which will reduce stressors. For example a lot of people suggested leaving extra time, or splitting up tasks so that they are not all happening in this last 15 minutes, or...

@krafterkaren It's worth pushing through XD

@chriver Yeah I totally agree with you. It's so unnecessarily stigmatised, most people who speak out against medication have absolutely no idea what they are talking about and no experience of ADHD. Wild that someone with ADHD themselves would speak out against it IMO. But who knows what their...

@londonleah Oh yeah totally. I used pacifiers too. There is definitely a place for them. I just think that the idea they reduce SIDS risk is a little flawed.

@priya12 This is stress behaviour. Understanding stress behaviour (dysregulation) would have made my life SO much less stressful with my first 3yo! The way to deal with stress behaviour is figure out what's causing the stress (which will be multiple things, you don't get stress behaviour from...