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@yamila What I am still not understanding is WHY.

@puddintain Really?? Is this a thing? What are the reasons? Anxiety?

@robphillips79 Thank you so much. This truly means a lot to me. And I relate a bit to what you’re saying about certain issues from the past triggering you and how it’s hard for your partner to see it. I feel absolutely sick that I am taking part in keeping my mom from her grandchild. With...

@reysalomon01 I can’t even express to you how heartbroken I feel on a daily basis because of this. It’s not how I imagined my life would go. There is nothing I want more than for my mom to come spend time with me and my daughter during the day and help me out. I spend so much of day just sobbing...

@dusty68 I hear you but he is absolutely not abusing our daughter.

@pookatini Because he’s supporting us and we live in one of the most expensive cities in the country. Getting a job and paying for childcare while being a solo parent would be impossible. Maybe once she is of school age it will be more feasible.

@k9subsea I’m in therapy and so is my husband. We have both had therapists for quite a while. I think this is a case where therapy can only do so much. I don’t see why my husband would want to keep me under his thumb anyway, I don’t even think he particularly likes me that much.

@eoim I totally hear you and this is my concern. It’s validating to hear from others that my suspicions are correct and this is not normal. What I am having a hard time understanding is WHY he would want to control and isolate me.

@rudytoot Daily: clean kitchen, manage dishes, shop/cook for/clean up after meals, wipe down bathroom counters and toilets, bleach toilets, make bed, vacuum, take out trash, keep up with laundry, clean up play area. Every other day: Mop, empty diaper pail, clean mirrors. Weekly: clean...

@brucepjr I should add here that the body image issues relating to getting the wrong size clothes happened when I was a preteen, not a young child. I assume my husband just wants to get ahead of the problem but again, I find it very over the top. I am more than willing to let go of things like...

@brucepjr Not logging her feeds and diapers in our baby care app, and spilling a bottle of pumped milk (heartbreaking as any pumping mom knows, but I don’t think it was done on purpose). EDIT: genuinely curious about why I’m being downvoted so strongly for just answering the question. Would love...

@luther27 All the major decisions hinge on him, yes—mainly in the name of his career (what cities/states we move to and live in, etc). Since he’s always made more money than me I kind of just went with it because I 1) didn’t want to act entitled (I just don’t believe I deserve a say for some...

@elrefale Ugh. I am so, so sorry that happened with your mom and your toddler. That’s absolutely egregious. I wish my husband understood that the issues with my mom are non-issues.

@quilly I honestly don’t know if I would have stayed sane during my pregnancy without being active! I am 38 weeks and still swimming laps at the gym and doing strength training at home. I ran til I was 23 weeks, too, and throughout my workouts at the gym and running outdoors I never had any...

@johnmedias He claims to have many colleagues who don’t let grandparents babysit. While that may be true I feel like whatever issues there have been aren’t serious enough to warrant this situation continuing on and on.

@nevermore 100% this

@brucepjr Simply that nothing is black and white. She’s very image-conscious and has a toxic diet-culture outlook. I have been open with her about how I don’t want this to be a part of my daughter’s life and she does appear to understand.

@dawn16 She’s definitely not an addict! Again, I’ve had my issues with her but mother daughter relationships can be complex as I’m sure all of us here know intimately.

In the past my husband has said he doesn’t want our daughter to receive any clothes as gifts after age 1 because of the fear that getting the wrong size could cause body image issues (this is something I told him happened to me as a kid). Our daughter is 13 months and for one of her Christmas...

@katrina2017 That’s actually a brilliant idea