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@yaoshi He’s in therapy every week and has been for a year. I haven’t noticed that it has done anything for him other than give him therapylike vocabulary to use during arguments.

@bastarr Something similar happened to me with my mother and my then-2-month old daughter. It’s been almost a year and she’s never babysat again. Whether malicious or ignorant, it’s concerning either way.

@wheels56 This fills me with rage.

@thomasgreentiller Mostly about my family members—only occasionally about my friends. As I said in another comment, he dislikes most people.

@tinisha I think he would potentially end our relationship over it. His biggest trigger is people lying and if I get caught in a lie? Not good.

@trinity47 Nope, not all. I am the main bill payer and buy myself whatever I want.

@puddintain I think about this a lot. But I just feel like it would cause then so much worry and stress. I do wonder if they have some idea of what is going on and how deeply unhappy I am.

@puddintain I really don’t want to worry them. And I feel like since there’s nothing I can really do that that’s all it would serve to do—just give them something to worry about.

@1984isnotamanual I’ve been open with her about all of this. She has never named it as such, no. She knows that I am not gonna leave or go anywhere because I simply cannot so she is trying to help me make the best of my situation, I guess.

@katrina2017 I have a therapist I see weekly, and access to all our finances, so access to therapy and financial abuse is not a concern. I don’t ask for permission of where to go and what to do anymore (I did early on in our relationship but for years now he has trusted me to do these things—it...

@1984isnotamanual This is very much on my mind but there is not really anything I can do about it since 1) I don’t have a job 2) if I do get a job childcare in my state is among the most expensive in the country and 3) without us being together my daughter won’t have the same financial standard...

@seekinghope That’s definitely the case. I know it makes them really sad and I feel bad about it.

@heyimeugene Definitely not. It took my parents a long time to come around to liking my partner early on and I don’t want to start back at square one and admit that things aren’t perfect.

@key923 Because of the worry that she will take pics of the baby and send them to him, or mention next time we see her that she was over at our place helping with the baby recently. I don’t want to get in the situation of telling her we need to keep it a secret when she helps. That feels super...

@devanox He’s happy to have us pay a babysitter for date nights etc and I’m sure I could convince him that occasional daytime help could be nice (so I could get a haircut, go to the eye doctor etc). The issue is that he keeps moving the goal posts about my mom in particular and it’s a lot for me...

@nychristian15 I don’t think it’s really about the clothing. I think it’s about coming up with more reasons why my mom can’t be involved.

@lovechrist4eva I think that in his eyes, it doesn’t matter if it’s a struggle because the most important thing is keeping baby away from my mom’s influence (regarding food/body image etc). I am of the opinion that at her current age it won’t make much of a difference, and by the time she’s old...

@viesel I would love nothing more than for my mom to help. That is the point of this post. The “mistakes” my mom made with babysitting were of much more concern to my husband than to me, I didn’t think it was a big deal worth being and staying mad about.

@cippy I’m not afraid of him. I honestly don’t know why I follow his orders. I have since day one. Early on, things were horrible between us and I feel like I had to work hard to prove myself a good trustworthy partner so ever since then, I have felt that I don’t get a say, my opinion doesn’t...

@1984isnotamanual I just have a hard time calling it that when we are well provided for and he has never once been violent.