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@morirach Here’s my take. After you have the baby there’s the obvious genetic and hormonal components but in America anyway, you’re likely parenting with minimal to village. You’re maybe nursing, pumping, formula feeding around the clock- maybe all three. It’s work. If you’re partnered with a...

@tigermoose That’s the scary but fun part- you don’t know how it will be but there’s an extent where you get to define it and a part where whatever will happen, will happen and if you need help or support you can reach out for it. Newborn phase was the scariest in my mind because they’re...

@lee1009 That’s the thing- there’s a way to say things. And to also keep in mind your experience is not the experience or way it is. I know it is typically well intended but like I said in previous comments, if you want someone to receive what you have to say, you have to figure out an...

@jen10 Exactly- we know. You’re right. I agree with everything you wrote, 100%.

@tofu When people say “at least...” followed by something more extreme or unhelpful it doesn’t come from a place of empathy and is so annoying and dismissive of what you’re going through. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

@tomjono6 I think you’re smart and capable enough to have the benefit of the doubt as an adult actively making the choice to have a baby and know that post partum will be a roller coaster of rapid change and that it’s not always going to be rainbows and sunshine, but you definitely want to...

@katrina2017 Me too, thank you so much! I’m open to advice but when it’s projected or not communicated in a certain way, like anything, you’re not really in a place to perceive it as much but negative or aversive. Your examples totally nail how it is vs how it should be.

@manonarunfw Thank you, sometimes you just wanna be happy and celebrate the small victories, while knowing it’s a marathon not a sprint.

@jesushearme Thank you! I appreciate it! I hope it lasts too- but hey, growing humans only get more complicated.

@katrina2017 Just shy of 1 month old. Things have been different and the same all at once. Baby boy is def more awake but not with any additional fussing or purple crying- he’s more alert and taking in his environment and holding his gazes and eye contact. Feeding schedule is still the same-...

@jammin4christ I completely agree 100% with you and I think you’re a good friend. Tact, that’s the key.

@lucianx Your experience, pregnancy to currently, sounds like mine. I’m open to others’ advice with a grain of salt but I also know my support system from unsolicited/not mindful knee jerk reactions, and I’ve been lucky to have strong, vulnerable moms share their experiences and be there for me...

@palmequinox Thank you so much. I totally agree- we keep the bad stuff standing out in our minds. Honestly, the reason that I feel so good right now is because the newborn stage, the first couple weeks, was the stage I was most scared about facing. Reactive/negative people don’t realize or stop...

“You’re never gonna sleep again.” One week in and on a 3 hour feeding schedule and I’m getting better, more quality sleep than the last few weeks of my third trimester, free of aches, pains, and insomnia. I can also sleep comfortably on my side and stomach again. Also, unrelated, I poop and pee...

@richdarambler The audacious expectations of coming to other people with a newborn (especially close relatives) surprised me a lot after our little one was born. Like wut.