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@babygems Yes, sorry that wasn’t clear. I meant we always have leftovers, and don’t go through all of them. I do expect that our food bill would increase some, but I meant overall I am already cooking more than we need, just because that’s the way it works out.

@wren84 Oof, you are being very aggressive for some reason. I don’t think it’s weird, but whatever. Also, we are not currently struggling, I never said that. I’m trying to prevent the struggle, which is why I came here for advice.

@wren84 We already paid for the IVF, it would not be an additional cost. Are you speaking from experience? Or hypothetical? I feel like our food bill wouldn’t really change because I make most of our meals already and always have leftovers. We have mostly existed with hand-me-down clothes, so...

@celoxisppm My husband is kind of high stress with regards to finances, no matter what. I don’t think that he will be low stress if we don’t have another, but I also don’t want to put him over the edge lol.

@coachdonald22 That is a good consideration, but not really applicable for us. I do work part-time, but from home, so we only use a Mother’s Day out program that is more affordable. Plus by the time I had another, we would only have one in Mother’s Day out, and the rest in public school.

@katrina2017 Thank you!

@katrina2017 That’s definitely fair, I do talk to him about it, but I am more emotional about the decision and I don’t want to be unreasonable. I wanted to get some back up from people who have been there. He has a pretty large life insurance policy already, but that is a good tip. Also, if I...

@katrina2017 thank you, I really appreciate this comment. I feel like the biggest hurdles financially were going from 1 to 2, and from 3 to 4 because they required extra space (house, car, hotels, etc). I don’t expect there to be no increase in expenses, but I am just realistically trying to...

@doge9000 This is exactly how I feel! But I’m trying to understand my husband‘s point of view as well. I do work, but part-time and from home, so he is the main financial provider. I don’t want to put undue stress on him, but also, I don’t want to let finances hold us back if they aren’t a huge...

@jesusfolloweranthony Yes, we are very intentional with our kids, so even though we are spread thin, I am not concerned about the amount of attention each gets. I agree we both need to be on board, he says he would love another child if money wasn’t an issue, so I’m hoping to show him that...

@jesusfolloweranthony Thanks for detailing some of these expenses! I did find that going from 3 to 4 kids impacted our travel significantly because we have to get two rooms. My husband and I used to travel a lot before we had kids, so we miss that, but I see that in our future once our kids are...

My husband (46m) and I (40f) currently have four kids at home (9,7,3,2). We live in a large enough (albeit with most sharing rooms) house zoned to the best public schools and drive a car that fits everyone. We have one frozen embryo that we had been planning to implant before we had our...