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@mirbaki WTF that is some major betrayal. I'm sorry your mother did that to you. It doesn't matter if your ex was Gandhi.

@sungw Birth to 6mo is definitely crazy. Early morning sleep and naps are still maturing (so early morning wakings + crap naps galore), and sleep needs are changing so fast. It's still a ton of change after 6 months, but feels easier because: -pace of change has slowed somewhat (compared to the...

@sungw I find the concept of sleep regression useful (despite being skeptical at first), IF I can be very specific about what sleep regressions are. I don't define sleep regression ISN'T when baby used to sleep well at night but no longer is. It's not a useful concept. I know my baby isn't...

@yvennow LOL perfect way to put it. All of us on this sub have been young before and done stupid sh&t like that =P Can't stop an adult daughter from going, but I'd be loading her up on condoms and birth control and stocking up on ice cream and Kleenex for the inevitable tearfest after she...

@onlyjesus316 He sounds very a very strong-minded child! If you noticed that a super firm boundary is needed, then you and everyone around you need to get on top of that. Also the multiple wakings a night is probably adding to the dysregulatuon. My son is much more easy going by nature, and...

@itsmeheathermarie @trivalee did. Hopefully she can provide some guidance. Separation anxiety was bad at this age. Also the 2-1 transition is brutal even in the best of circumstances. I'd also not be comfortable with CIO with the asthma attacks. Is camping out (set up a reasonable sleeping...

@bluesky123 Sounds good. It doesn't sound like she has crutches so sleep training should go quickly. I wouldn't make any big schedule changes beforehand as I don't think you have any major schedule issues, and big schedule changes (like changing bedtime) right before sleep training can lead you...

@onlyjesus316 I'm exhausted reading your post; can't imagine living it as you've been. It's okay to feel like you are losing your mind. Most of us would be feeling the same thing. One thing that's helped me a lot is the idea that boundaries are what YOU do; they're not what he does. He wakes...

@bluesky123 Nights are good? I would work on getting her to nap independently first. @trivalee has a pretty gentle nap training guide for babies who have mastered night sleep. Once she's napping independently, just leave her for 5-10 minutes after she wakes up from a nap to give her the chance...

@noclue It's good that she's not screaming at kiddo, but it's still not good for her to have to do that every night. And I'm sure your daughter feels the tension--I was having trouble soothing my 3mo due to my PPD, and if my friggin newborn could sense my stress and anxiety, your toddler...

@noclue Well if there's anything to get a toddler to lie down and drift off to sleep peacefully--it sure as hell isn't screaming. You CAN do a lot to help the situation. Bedtime with mommy clearly isn't working if it sends your wife into a murderous rage each time. Relieve her of that and take...

@jschutonline Yup Reddit ate most of my post... and I don't have a backup. I'm pretty annoyed. Maybe I'll get around to it again some day. Totally agree with you that switching back and forth and TIME. We didn't switch back and forth for 4-3 and ended up with some really bad night wakings bc LO...

@burdman Good luck! It been harder and easier thus far--harder because the old tricks of soothing (I used to just contact for a bad early morning waking or for a nap I want to extend, and could usually get LO to go back to sleep) stop working, and you really just have to be very mindful and...

@burdman Thank you so much for your kind words! Yeah the 2-1 transition is a really tricky one. Reddit ate the rest of this post where I posted some strategies but yeah, keeping a tired 15mo up for 7 hours ain't it!!!

@ghag17 In addition to what's already been posted, other resources to help you locate local resources: -other Chinese-speaking parents at playgrounds/events (I've gotten home daycare recommendations, nanny information) -Chinese forums/message boards -Facebook, Reddit, social media We live in...

@archangellover Agree with your interpretation of your kiddo's WW 100%. Sounds like you have a plan. Good luck!

@archangellover > I don’t think daycare will keep him in the bed for 1hr but he’s only there 2 days a week and he’s about to have 2 week holiday anyway. Yay to the holiday! Yeah it doesn't matter with daycare. I'd just ask them to offer it as much as they can. If bedtime is 6-6:30 he may start...

@archangellover Sounds like the 12 month sleep regression. It's a good thing: it shows that your kiddo has been well-rested so far (so he has the energy to fight the nap) AND that his wake windows are getting a bit longer. He sounds like my son. My son always has the shortest first WW and a...

@fortyeight Thank you! Great to hear that things are going well! I've been thinking of a blog or something, but maybe substack would be a better venue? I enjoy helping ppl on Reddit but honestly I just end up typing the same things over and over again: would be nice to have something to direct...

@fortyeight Thank you! Great to hear that things are going well! I've been thinking of a blog or something, but maybe substack would be a better venue? I enjoy helping ppl on Reddit but honestly I just end up typing the same things over and over again: would be nice to have something to direct...