@toniboykin84 Everyone recovers differently, so your mileage may vary. But I will say my wife was MISERABLE through the last month or so of her twin pregnancy, but recovered like an absolute champ from her c-section at 34 weeks. I often joke that if everyone’s c-section recovery went as smoothly...
@filqwer Piggybacking to also recommend The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child. Our child psychiatrist recommended it, even without a diagnosis of ODD, for very similar issues to what OP describes.