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    OAD because one’s spouse isn’t the right person

    @freedom1969 Yes but I didn't stay with my ex. He was a real POS and it hit home one day that by staying, I was showing my daughter that it was okay for women to be mistreated and abused. As in, if I stayed then my choice would contribute to her living in a home with fist sized holes in the...
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    One and done because my partner will never carry the same mental and physical load when it comes to taking care of this child

    @jahutto Agreed. This man grew up in western culture. I was absolutely floored that he seemed to think that he shouldn't evolve past his parents home country culture ... as it was when they left in the 70s/80s. I'm not saying anything but the man is in for a rude wake up call if he does wind up...
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    One and done because my partner will never carry the same mental and physical load when it comes to taking care of this child

    @tam85 I had something of a conversation with my male co worker about this. For context, He wants a kid sooo bad that he makes offhand comments that he'd divorce his soon to be wife if she's unable to have his kid... I'd spent yet another intensive weekend at a sports event with my kid during...
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    Is OAD becoming more common in part because parenting is harder now?

    @mikecrb IMO, cost of living is the huge driving factor. I can't afford a home large enough to comfortably fit a second child, I can't afford child care for a second child (even in my current shoebox house), if I stayed home and we somehow crammed an extra person in this house... my daughter...
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    Do twins count as one and done?

    @nathandavis IMO yes and no. lol! You'd fall under one and done in terms of pregnancy but you will be living a very different experience vs someone with only one kid. ie, you'd need to budget for 2 kids, manage a sibling relationship, split your time between 2 kids etc.
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